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{The Ordinary Moments 14} #32 'Celebrating The Ordinary Moments.'

on Sunday, 31 August 2014.

 

Blogging is a funny old thing, it's really hard to explain to someone who doesn't really know all that much about it.  It's something which has become a part of me, of who I am, and I am now just automatically programmed to think about my blog each day- to check twitter, instagram or to read blogs, it's part of my day to day routine.  I've made lots of friends through it, had many opportunities and been able to showcase my freelance work.  Of course there are times where I wonder what the point is, why I obsessively document our memories, or times where I wonder why people want to read about it.  Our life is happy and simple, but it's pretty dull.  We are just an average family, with nothing particularly exciting going on.  But then I know why I read my favourite blogs, because I am genuinely interested in their lives and I love to hear about what they are up to.

There are times where I feel really uninspired, when I can't be bothered to pick up my camera and it sits behind the sofa collecting dust, or where I need to just spend my evenings with my husband and not worry about writing a post.  There are times when I just need to switch off and there are times when life gets in the way and I just don't have time to record our memories, or absentmindedly flick through my social media channels.  But after doing this for over three years, I know that there is something ingrained in me to always come back to blogging- that it's ok to take a break, to feel uninspired or to just quite frankly not be bothered for a while.

One thing I do love doing is writing these Ordinary Moments posts each week.  When I haven't written or done much blogging all week because of being busy, or feeling uninspired, I know that I have this post to write.  I know I don't have to do one each week, that I could leave it for a couple of weeks, but it's almost like I have become programmed to write it.  Like with anything, it will get to Saturday afternoon and I will spend the girl's nap time writing a post when I should be doing the housework, but I like the fact that I started this little project and that I am documenting our day to day life.  Because really I am such a creature of habit, I love the days out or the exciting times, but home is very much where my heart is.  I thrive on routine, and as such so do my girl's, so our weeks pass quickly in a blur of mealtimes, seeing friends, nap time and bits and bobs.  It's not particularly thrilling but I really do relish these times the most.  I am happy living our slightly boring, ordinary life.

A couple of months ago I was contacted by Clarks who had found my Ordinary Moments project and wanted to collaborate with me on their new Autumn/Winter brand book.  I was genuinely thrilled that they wanted to work with me and a couple of days ago they sent me a few copies that have finally been printed.  My little ethos on celebrating and documenting the ordinary moments will now go out with every single pair of first shoes bought, as a reminder that it's not just the big milestones that are important, and that makes me feel really proud.  Out of all the opportunities I have had through my blog, this one has really stood out for me because that is exactly why I started my blog in the first place- to record our family life together.  

My blog may not be the most exciting, the most glamourous or indeed the most interesting blog to read- I don't do many reviews, I don't write posts that stand out or make a difference, or that make people inspired or laugh out loud, but it has reminded me exactly why I will continue to spend my very rare and limited spare time coming back time and time again to this blog.  

To record and treasure our Ordinary Moments.  

Because they really are the ones I want to remember.

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NB:  Clarks didn't ask me to write about featuring in their brand book, but I am just really proud!

Me and Mine: A Family Portrait Project 2014- August.

on Sunday, 31 August 2014.

I am struggling to comprehend the fact that it is September tomorrow.  August has flown by, with some lovely days full of sunshine, followed by the last couple of weeks wondering where the Summer went.  Hopefully we will get some sunny days next month but as I look out the window at the cloudy, overcast day we are having, it really doesn't seem likely.  We have made some lovely memories in August- we went on our first ever camping trip to Wales, we have been swimming lots in Grandad Roy's pool, we spent a lovely weekend seeing my Nana and Grandpa, and I ran my first ever half marathon.  There have been lazy days spent doing not much at all and fun days out, including a trip to London and some one on one time with my big girl, while Mr E spent time with LL.

This month's Me and Mine photos are from our camping trip.  I really wanted to get a family photo from our weekend away, as it was quite exciting for us to go on a glamping adventure for the first time.  These photos make me smile, they are far from perfect but that's exactly why I like them.

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We totally didn't fit the mould as your average campers.  I think that when we turned up to stay in our pretty pre erected bell tent and I proceeded to put lanterns on the front, our fellow campers must have wondered what planet we were from.  Being complete amateurs, we didn't pack any snuggly clothes, not envisiging how cold it was going to be in the evenings, so after a trip to the shops to buy some fleecy Toy Story pj's (which Mads still thinks are the most amazing thing ever!) and some boys age 14 grey jogging bottoms for me, we were slightly more comfortable.  

I then don't think we did ourselves any favours by getting out the tripod and setting it up in the middle of the campsite, before doing my usual trick of running back and forth to set the self timer.    It's safe to say that we gave the other campers some entertainment!  We are squinting into the sun, wearing our pjs, looking slightly disheveled, and all looking in different directions, but these photos bring back such happy memories of a really lovely weekend.  

This Summer has been about making memories.  We have been very lucky to have some fabulous times, but we have also enjoyed the simple life and spending time together doing things like having picnics or going to the park.  I am really sad to say goodbye to August, but our Summer isn't over quite yet.  September brings us our busiest month so far with Mr E's birthday, two holidays, a couple of nights away, a complete bathroom renovation and two new additions to the family with the arrival of our new kittens.  It's safe to say it's going to be hectic, but I can't wait to experience it all with my little family.

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This month I am sending you over to look at Becky's lovely blog- her little girl turned 3 this month and so I am sure she will have a special family photo to share.

My Little Bits Of Life #3

on Wednesday, 27 August 2014.

I've been a bit lazy when it comes to my big camera recently.  I am still taking it out and about if we go on weekends away or on day's out with Mr E, but if I go out on my own with the girls, I just can't be bothered with the hassle of bringing it along- it's heavy and then I find I worry about dropping it or leaving it somewhere.  Therefore the trusty camera in my pocket, my iPhone has been out in full force while we are out and about enjoying the Summer.

Here are a few little snippets of our life recently, I have so many I shall do another post really soon...

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1.  LL and I had a morning date shopping together while Mads and Daddy did the garden- it was so nice to spend the morning together and she fell asleep in her buggy while I ate my lunch- bonus!

2.  Mads has got really into styling and choosing her own clothes recently and we have been enjoying doing it together, I loved this little outfit, how cute are her little harem pants!

3.  Mads woke early one morning and for a second I was grumpy, then we snuggled together and I realised that these moments won't last forever.  I relished that half an hour just the two of us cuddling.

4.  A little ice cream treat never goes amiss.

5.  Just look at this girl- what a cool dude in her sunglasses, I love her little poppy dress.

6.  If I leave my purse unattended, within a second LL has emptied it of all it's contents.  It drives me mad.  Here I caught her in the act!

7.  There have been some beautiful sunsets around our way recently.  

8.  I've said it before and I'll say it again- nothing beats a little person in dungaress.  Just.Too.Cute.

9.  When Mads leaves the house each day, she is guaranteed to find something she just has to take with her.  In this instance it was a bag full of her 'treasures' and a toy dog.  All the essentials.

10.  It's a little blurry but I love this photo I took of my girl's at bedtime one evening.  They really do love each other so much, even if they are beginning to fight like cat and dog.  It's amazing to watch them together.

11.  We have lost count of the amount of unplanned picnics we have had this Summer, this was one of them.  I rang Mr E and told him to meet us after work and we would eat outside.  We love them!

12.  Another one of my posing girl, anyone would think she loved the camera but in actual fact she isn't keen at all.  She lets me take one photo and then tells me that is enough, and she tolerates the iPhone more than my DSLR.  I love her pose in this one.

13.  Summer explorations- you can't beat that golden afternoon light when it pokes through the trees.

14.  And lastly on my way home from a run one evening I spotted the sky and just had to take a photo.  What a gorgeous sunset.

 

If you are on instagram do come and say hello, my username is @mummydaddyme - it's by far my favourite form of social media.

 

 

{The Ordinary Moments 14} #31 'Half Glass Empty Half Glass Full'

on Sunday, 24 August 2014.

*Disclaimer- this is a bit of rambling post on motherhood that doesn't really make much sense, but my emotions were all over the place this week.  You have been warned!*

 

I have a tendency to let the mundanity of life catch up with me sometimes.  Occasionally the constant nappy changes, the endless making lunches or lugging two small people around the supermarket with one running off and one refusing to sit in a trolley, will result in me feeling a little bit out of sorts.  I will pace around the living room waiting to hear the front door open and see my husband arrive home from work, just to get a little break from the constant demands of motherhood.

At the back of my mind, I always deep down know how lucky I am, how blessed I am to have the opportunity to work from home and be the person who looks after my girls the majority of the time.  Of course I know that, but sometimes the intensity and mediocrity just catches up with me.  Because let's face it, being a parent is hard work.  It's relentless, from the second they open their eyes in the morning until well after they have gone to sleep at night.  Making sandwiches, the nursery drop off, running their bath water, tidying the toys after they are in bed- we repeat so many moments in motherhood we could probably do them in our sleep.  They become routine.  They become day to day life.  And sometimes that day to day life gets a little stagnant, or a 'bad day' in the life of a three and a half year old learning to express her emotions can throw it all off kilter slightly.  You can feel like your glass is half empty even though you know deep down that couldn't be further from the truth.

But then I also have the other kind of emotional moments.  These happen once in a while too and they are even harder to describe.  My husband has a tattoo of the yin and yang symbol, I don't hugely like it to be honest (it's very late 90's sorry Mr E!) but it was done another lifetime ago.  However recently I have been thinking about the meaning behind it and how in a way you can relate it to the feeling of motherhood.  How opposing or contrary forces are actually interconnected and complementary to each other.  Amazing and beautiful moments, followed by difficult or sad ones.  Ordinary days where everything goes right followed by ordinary days where it all feels just feels a little bit challenging and hard.  

This week I have felt so teary.  But not teary in a sad or unhappy way.  Just emotional with the intensity of it all.  Emotional because I feel lucky to have this mundane, slightly boring life.  The slightest thing has set me off, whether it's a sad song, saying goodbye to my grandparents, or even cuddling my biggest girl who clung to me in our bed in the night after being sick.  As she lay with me, I felt this raw emotion so strong that it made me cry silently into my pillow. I find that being a mother is loving so deeply that sometimes it actually physically hurts.

There's this fear deep inside me that I don't even like to think about let alone put into words.  I imagine all mothers have it from time to time.  Most of the time it lies dormant, always there but hidden, a passing thought in the midst of a busy day.  But sometimes it pushes it's way to the surface and it can consume my thoughts.  It may be something on the news, something that has happened to a friend of a friend, or even god forbid someone you know.  A glimpse into someone else's anguish and despair.  The fact that life can change in an instant.  And these moments will always make me sad but occasionally they will floor me.  The thought of anything bursting my happy bubble of ordinary life.  

Because Motherhood is so much more than making sandwiches, the nursery drop off, running their bath water, and tidying the toys.  Underneath the routine and the structure, there's the deep rooted  intensity of loving someone so much that it can completely change you.  That you can have days where you feel like crying for absolutely no reason because you feel so overcome with emotion about how lucky you are.  Sometimes the best way to process that is just to carry on, to go about your day to day life- to play, to teach, to discipline and to make memories.  And it goes back to the Ying and Yang theory, for all of the worry, fear, guilt and mundanity, there is happiness, love and gratitude.  Those complimentary opposites constantly interacting and balancing each other, not being able to exist without the other.

You need the odd bad or challenging day to fully appreciate the good ones.  Sometimes I need a good cry, or to go and pick my children up from nursery early for a cuddle, or to really sit and closely watch them on the sofa eating an after nap biscuit to remind myself that ordinary life isn't always easy.  That motherhood isn't always easy.  We may be incredibly lucky but that everyone is allowed to feel like their glass is half empty on the odd occasion.  

But that deep down you know that it is in fact full to the brim.

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