When Mads was a baby we prided ourselves on such an independent little person. From day one, she was always so confident, always the one off on her own in soft play, or not crying when I left the room. Never really needy, happy to play on her own, and holding out her hands to anyone who wanted a cuddle.
Of course, as she has got bigger, she has lost her fearlessness a little, she now is a little shy before she gets to know people, and takes a while to warm up to new situations. But for the most part she still is a really independent little girl. She is affectionate and loves to cuddle and kiss constantly, but she has never really been clingy.
From around six months old she has been a Daddy’s girl. She is utterly obsessed with him, and they are as thick as thieves. There are some days when only Mummy will do, and now she is older she does have days where one of us is the favourite. But for the most part her Daddy is the apple of her eye. When she was a baby I was slightly envious of the relationship they shared.
LL on the other hand is completely different.
The baby of our family is so different to her big sister. I can’t completely tell what kind of personality she is going to have yet, after all she is only young. But she seems quieter, not quite as confident, but with a cheeky glint in her eye and a smile that lights up the room.
She is a Mummy’s girl through and through. If she goes to someone else for a cuddle, she looks to me for reassurance and to check I am still there. Depending on her mood she may cry and hold out her hands to me, and then once she feels safe will look back at the person and want them to talk to her. It’s as if she wants to interact but from my arms where she feels comfortable.
She always has to be touching me constantly, and always has to be near me, even if she is just resting her head on my leg. She climbs all over me and buries her head in my neck and nuzzles in. If she is sad, or tired, then only Mummy will do. Coming back to me will instantly stop her tears.
She loves her Daddy and you can tell that by the way she looks at him, but she is yet to have that bond with him that Mads does. Her heart completely belongs to Mummy. If I am in the room she will whinge to come to me, but if I go out or upstairs then she loves being with him. It can be a little suffocating sometimes, but for the most part I love the fact she is a Mummy’s girl.
I don’t know what it is. Mads was the first baby in our family and friendship groups so as such she was passed around constantly for cuddles and play time. As such, I don’t know if that is what has made her more sociable and independent, and now a lot of the time people will chat to Mads as she is older rather than LL. We also went to groups and classes that were catered for her age group, whereas with LL she often has to muck in with Mads and her social life- therefore a lot of time she is with me rather than interacting with babies her own age.
Maybe it is because when the four or us are together, Mr E tends to deal with Mads because she is older and I deal with LL because of feeding her. I do remember that Mads became even more attached to her Daddy when I stopped breast feeding, so perhaps that will make LL become less clingy towards me.
Perhaps though, she is just a Mummy’s girl. Perhaps she can feel the connection I have to her. The fact that she is more than likely going to be our last baby. The fact I am finding her growing up so quickly all a little too bittersweet. The fact that I am relishing every single minute of her baby days.
Perhaps it’s just because she needs me just as much as I need her.