Me and Mine: A Family Project 2016: September

These blurry, slightly out of focus photos are of my crew. My unit. My team. My tribe. Every single day we wake up, we exist together, intertwined as much as can be, living in our little bubble of predictability and routine. We know almost everything there is to know about each other, yet we learn more intricate little details every single day. We know what makes each other tick, we know how to push each others buttons, we know how to make each other laugh.

We have inside jokes, jokes that only we understand, that to an outsider wouldn’t be funny, we know how to hurt each other if we are angry or cross, we sometimes make each other cry out of sheer frustration. Yet at the same time if I am upset or anxious, I want to batten down the hatches and feel safe. They make me feel safe. Content. Loved.

We are learning and growing together. First there were just two of us, two good friends who fell in love. Everyone who knew us at the time said we would get together one day but we always laughed it off. Yet we did and almost eleven years later, here we are. First one baby. Then two. Then three. I never was one of those people who imagined what my family would be like, although if I did I certainly wouldn’t have pictured it like this. Now I couldn’t possibly imagine my life any other way.

It’s amazing really when you think about it. I know how babies are made, don’t get me wrong. But to have created our own little unit, our own little team, out of the love and friendship we have. How fate intervenes. If I hadn’t gone into that bar that day and asked for a job, I would have never met Jon. And all these years that have passed would have been so different. Yes I am sure that I would have met someone else, maybe even had children. But they wouldn’t be my three greatest loves. My Mads who is loud and crazy, but whose eyes twinkle with love when they look at you. My LL who is quiet but whose favourite thing at the moment is to sing me the ‘bung-a-low’ song and make me dance along. Or my LB, who wasn’t ever part of the ‘original’ plan, but who was the best decision we ever made.

We took these photos late last night. The end of the month sort of just creeped towards us and while I didn’t forget, we just didn’t get round to it. Yesterday the weather was horrible, wet and windy, and by the time Mads was home from school we just didn’t feel like going out to take photos. Then at the same time we couldn’t be bothered to take any photos with my big camera either. Our weeks are so hectic- made up of school, nursery and just general life, and none of us were feeling it. So we decided to take ‘selfies’ instead.

I actually love these photos. With their scruffy straight from school and nursery hair, with me with no make up and glasses on. Black and white photos somehow make me look even older, it seems to accentuate my eye bags and my wrinkles. But I have wrinkles because they are laughter lines (and I also like the sun a little too much but the laughter lines seem more poetic somehow). And I laugh a lot. I smile a lot. Parenting isn’t easy, it’s as stressful as hell at times. Life isn’t easy and I would hate to portray a picture that it’s perfect, because nothing is perfect. These children drive me mad at times, sometimes I sit down at the end of the day and I actually cry cause I have felt like a rubbish parent that day. Sometimes my husband will frustrate me more than I ever thought possible. We will argue and bicker and I will be so annoyed I want to scream/throw things/cry/all of the above. We all have our own struggles going on behind closed doors, even if they aren’t as serious as someone else’s.

But we are a family. And somehow life has a way of balancing itself out again. There are far more happy moments than stressful ones. I look at these photos and my heart feels so full at the slightly funny little people I have created. These simple, ordinary photos that we took in two minutes. Taken on a regular Thursday afternoon, after a busy day. Afternoons are always a little crazy, with reading to do, homework to do, dinner to eat, baths to have. Then we collapse on the sofa tired and a little drained. It’s just ordinary, but hectic.

And strangely I love these photos more than some of the more posed family photos we have done previously. Or the ones in exotic locations. Or the ones that tell more of a story.

Because actually simple, ordinary life is the very best story of all.

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PS Don’t forget to go and check out what LucyLucyAlexFritha and Jenny’s families have been up to this month.



26 Comments

  • These are brilliant! I think its your beautiful boy that makes me laugh the most. He totally looks like ‘what is going on here!’, brilliant expressions! I have moments where I can’t actually believe we created our girls, that without us getting together they wouldn’t be here, it blows my mind sometimes. x

  • Carie says:

    Oh they are adorable photos! Sometimes the best things are the ones that are stripped back to the simplest, just a camera and your gorgeous family. I love how LB looks so utterly baffled by what’s going on, especially when you’re all pulling faces!

  • I love these gorgeous, crazy photos. They are so special as they show a side that you probably only share with each other. Such a lovely capture xx

  • I love these photos. I’m the same with leaving it until the last minute. Luckily the weather wasn’t too bad on Tuesday so we headed out to get our photos. I see the next few months being indoor photos, I doubt I’ll brave the cold weather! x

  • Alex Gladwin says:

    These are some of my favourites of you. You have such an adorable family Katie and you’re making me want another member of our family, please stop that! Haha! 😉 xx

  • Such lovely, fun pictures! We opted for some silly ones this month too. Isn’t it so much easier to get kids to take pictures when silly faces are involved?! LOL x

  • Really lovely photos. Sometimes the ones that are last minute have so much personality and this is definitely something that shines out of these photos. I agree with the rushed afternoons and ordinary hectic lives and have talked a bit about that in mine this month too, because it might be stressful and ordinary but its all yours. A beautiful post xx

  • I love, love, LOVE these photos! And your words made me cry. Because I sometimes forget that everyone else’s social media posts are their highlight reels (usually anyway) and I’ve been struggling recently behind closed doors, feeling very lonely and like I’m the only one struggling/arguing/crying/shouting/all of the above. You’ve reminded me that EVERYONE has times like this and that despite it, the tribes we create for ourselves will always be there when we need them. So thank you 🙂 Your family is so beautiful, both on the outside and on the inside. xx

  • Ah, these are just perfect! Silly, funny, and just downright lovely. Sometimes it’s the simplest ones that are the most perfect, isn’t it?

  • Janine Dolan says:

    Selfies are the funniest things, especially when you have a baby in it. They can make any kind of faces or have their hands in the mouth.
    I am trying to schedule in our me and mine project every month now. I used to be way off where I’d be posting it only a week later.

  • Such a gorgeous bunch!! #meandmineproject xx

  • Mononita says:

    This is lovely! Cherish the moments as I wrote in my latest blog it goes by too fast and before you know it you’re on the brink on empty nest:like me :((

  • Lizzie Roles says:

    I agree with you Katie I think ordinary life makes the best story! Linking up for the first time #meandmineproject

  • Laura says:

    These are gorgeous photos. So natural and fun. x

  • Happy Mummy says:

    Beautiful words and lovely photos; so true as well about being a little unit 🙂 x

  • Love these photos! You can’t beat a family selfie to get everyone looking natural and for pulling funny faces! Mine love them 🙂 x

  • Love these photos mostly because of your little boy’s sweet face surrounded by loving faces. He looks a little confused but comfortable. Happy October!

  • Mary says:

    Fab photos and I was nodding along through all of this. You are so right and I love to ponder on how magnificent it is that we made these little humans and in the process have created this lovely family we enjoy (mostly). I love all you say about inside jokes etc and its just great fun isn’t it??
    Nothing beats after school scruffy hair and a sign of a busy day! Love the selfies and your gorgeous brood x

  • Emma says:

    Number two pic is the best pic! This is the cutest project xxx

  • Oh these are stunning – and how amazing that you got all 5 of you looking at the camera! we love a selfie, and I totally agree sometimes they capture those little moments so much more xxx

  • Isn’t it funny how the selfies at home are sometimes the best ones. I love these and you’re so right, it’s amazing how two people can make a new family unit. xx

  • You guys are SO cute!!!!!! Lovely photos and you all have such different characters xx

  • Morgana says:

    I absolutely adore these photos Katie! We love doing silly family selfies too. How great that you’ve captured the little personalities in them too xx

  • Such gorgeous photos Katie! Sometimes the silly, unposed ones make the best family ones! x

  • Jenny says:

    Last minute or not, selfies or not, you always make the best family captures with your crew. I love these, so fun, so happy, so silly and personalities are all on form which is brilliant Katie. Hope you have one of these in a frame on the wall. Lovely. I think it’s captures like these that make the most memories and bring back more than the planned organized ones. The girls look so grown up with baba next to them. It’s amazing how that happens. Instantly they seen more grown up and mature when you have another don’t they? #meandmineproject

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