{THE ORDINARY MOMENTS 17} #8 ‘THE COMFORT OF THE ORDINARY’

I’ve been writing these ‘Ordinary Moments’ posts for a good couple of years now and of course there have been times when I have missed the odd week, mainly due to illness or holiday’s. But for the most part I have managed to think of something to write most weeks for quite a long time. Sometimes the posts are emotional, sometimes they are about a milestone one of our children may have achieved, perhaps what we’ve been up to, or often just general day to day life. I sat down tonight  like I often do, Jon was in the kitchen cooking fajitas ready for us to switch off and enjoy our Saturday evening, but for once I simply couldn’t think of a single thing to write about.

Life at the moment is just coasting along. But far from being boring, I quite like it when it’s like this. There’s the promise of exciting things on the horizon, but none of those are set in stone yet. Instead we just revel in the mundanity, the routine and the structure that make up the majority of our time. We parent, we work, we tidy, we cry, we laugh, we shout, we cuddle, and we go about our day to day business. The days pass us by quickly, even though we aren’t doing all that much. A lot of our life is about routine at the moment. Our baby boy has his longest nap in the morning, he generally goes down about 9.30 and will go anything from one to two hours. The weather has been terrible so we’ve been hibernating indoors a lot, probably not making an effort to get out when we should do. I keep promising myself that I will join baby yoga, or swimming, or got to a baby group. But to be honest as sad as it sounds, I’m just happy being at home. It’s comforting and I’m enjoy the comfort of the ordinary.

Yet there is a world of extraordinary opportunities that lie in the realm of ordinary, and we have our ways in which we do simple things to breathe more color into our days. Those little moments that bring a sparkle. Like this week when our baby boy moved properly for the first time, just a simple drag rather than a crawl but his two sisters shouted and cheered like he had conquered a mountain. Or when we were driving in the car earlier today and I turned the radio up loud at a random moment in a song and all four of us did one of those laughs where you can’t stop and then you end up laughing just for the sake of laughing, forgetting what was even funny in the first place. Or more superficially than that, when you buy a bunch of daffodils on a grey and dreary day just to brighten it up even a tiny bit, or when you decide to treat yourself to a new top, or put red lipstick on for the school run just because you can.

I often feel like these days with young children are like having your own, small, slightly funny little tour guides ushering you through life, pointing out the things we often neglect to notice. The excitement when Mads comes home from school telling me something she has learnt or even getting so enthusiastic about her lunch, or the way that the other day my Mum bought LL a little Lego figure mystery bag and she got the ‘rubber duck Batman’ and shouted so loudly in excitement, with a smile so wide, that it made both my Mum and I get tears in our eyes. Or even the way our baby boy eats his lunch, how something as simple as a pack of raisins is a world of discovery, the way his little hands reach out to grab them and then he promptly spits them straight back out again.  Their job is to find those colourful, exciting moments out of the thin, bland air of ordinary life- your job is to follow them. To learn to appreciate them.

Sometimes it seems like these moments—and the organised chaos of our everyday life—will go on forever, an endless blur of snotty noses, hand holding, tantrums over who wants to have the green cup that morning at breakfast. But they won’t. Someday my children won’t run into our room in the morning so excited to see their Mummy and Daddy. Some day I won’t have to tell Mads to stop jumping around like a flea when we are out and she is holding my hand because she is just such a ball of energy that she can’t sit still. Someday I won’t lie feeding our baby boy his last feed at night time, I won’t stroke his head or watch him stare at me with unconditional love while his big sisters chatter and argue as they get ready for bed.

So I take comfort in the ordinary. I relish the mundanity. I look forward to possible adventures to come but enjoy the routine and structure that make up our lives. It’s not always easy. But there’s no where else I’d rather be.

 

(Some unrelated photos of myself and my boy from the other day!)


13 Comments

  • These really are lovely photos Katie and I completely agree, I don’t go o anything with Roma and I feel bad about that sometimes but I love to not be too busy and to take notice of these wonderful ordinary moments that make up life with small children, it makes me rather emotional thinking that one day it won’t be like this at all x

  • I love the quiet everyday days, just as much as I love the days that are full of adventure. The days where we can just be us in our own surrounding are some of the best moments. The simplest things bringing the biggest pleasure. Gorgeous photos of you and your beautiful boy x

  • This is me every week! Our lives are SO ordinary, that I sometimes find myself really struggling, but typically I had two things that I could have written about today! Beautiful photo’s as always. W is growing so fast! xx

  • Carie says:

    That makes perfect sense to me – the just being at home doing nothing bits are usually my favourite parts of the week, even when parenting is tiring and frustrating and wonderfully baffling!

  • This was so lovely to read and it actually made me feel a little sad thinking about all these lovely ordinary everyday moments which won’t happen forever… this time can be so fleeting and I love that each week we celebrate these ordinary moments. I’ve been looking back over all my OM posts and have written about those this weekend in fact x

  • So at last I’ve linked up again!! I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve meant and tried to link up but just haven’t managed it for one reason or another. Hopefully this is the start of many more!!!

    I find SUCH comfort in the ordinary, I’m such a creature of habit and love not having plans. Mostly I love the freedom and the endless possibility attached to not having anything in the diary.

    Can you believe our babies are almost 1?!! Iris’s birthday is in just two weeks, seriously where did that time go??? xxx

  • Those weeks when life just ticks over and nothing particularly exciting happens but everything is going along nicely are my absolute favourite. I’m a big fan of the simple life and I love being in my own home and inside my own little bubble. Going on adventures is amazing but I’m a homebody at heart xx

  • Notmyyearoff says:

    Sometimes mundanity is just lovely, especially at this time of year when it feels like we’re all waking up for Spring. We’ve squeezed trips in for half term it generally been rather lazy 🙂 Gorgeous photos of little Wren and you!

  • Gorgeous photos. You are so right, we need the ordinary to appreciate the fun stuff that bit more x

  • Gemma says:

    What beautiful photos Katie. I totally resonate with this – I love the days when we have loads planned, and get family time outside of our house, but also love the days when we have nothing planned, and life just ticks along xx

  • Donna says:

    I cannot wait until our house is finished so we can just enjoy our ordinary – and make a new ordinary really as not much of it will be ordinary anymore. I love having adventures and I love filling our time together with days out and breaks away but I love being at home too, relishing the little things and just enjoying life. I love this post Katie x

  • Lisa H says:

    Love the photos of your and your boy Katie, and loving that shirt!

  • Mary Smith says:

    I feel like this with Alice…I feel like I should go to groups and join classes with her but then I am just content with her hanging at home or waking around the shops smiling at her in the buggy! I wonder if when this phrase has gone will I regret I didn’t do more or is it okay just to be together? Sounds like you are all doing grand and its so good to laugh together with family inside jokes x #ordinarymoments x

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