{The Ordinary Moments 15} #12 ‘Bugs and Hugs’

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I have written a few times before about how when my children are poorly, I actually find those times some of the most emotional and rawest when it comes to this motherhood journey.  Of course I don’t like them being poorly, no one wants their child to be under the weather, but those times when they need their Mummy the most, are the times that I know I will treasure when they are all grown up.

There’s something about them- I know I will look back and remember that slightly sick, sweet smell of Calpol, the feeling of how hot their little foreheads were when you touched them, and how when I wrapped my arms around them and snuggled into them tight, it felt like I was holding on to a hot water bottle.  On Monday morning LL had spent the majority of the night before in our bed.  I lay next to her for ages while the sun came up and her and Mr E were still in a restless sleep, and I just stared at her.  I made sure I took in every inch of her little button nose, all crusty and sore from her cold, and I marvelled at how long her eyelashes were.  I snuggled in close to her and took advantage of the fact she was asleep, and I put my head near hers and smelt her hair, it always smells of honey.

It’s rare we stay in all day.  I am one of those people who likes to be busy, I like to get us out and about even if it’s just to pop into town or to the garden centre for a cake.  We rarely have days in the house anymore, especially now they are older and we all get a little bit of cabin fever if we don’t go out.  PJ days are rare nowadays too, and there’s silly things, but since I started blogging I don’t remember the last time I had morning TV on that wasn’t kids television.  If I am at home there is normally the hum drum of children’s programmes in the background or it’s off because we are playing a game of some sorts.

LL has been under the weather pretty much all week- I am lucky that neither of my children are particularly sickly, (touch wood) in fact I can count on one hand the amount of times they have actually been sick since they were past that ‘baby sick’ stage.  A lot of children permanently have colds or coughs, but again Mads and LL generally aren’t really prone to them.  But this week LL has been really out of sorts with a cold, cough and really high fever.  Sunday night was dreadful, she didn’t want to sleep in her cot, but she is also one of these little people who just can’t settle in our bed, unlike her big sister, so we had a night where the three of us tossed and turned all night long.

Tuesday was supposed to be a nursery day but she really wasn’t up for going.  As it happens I got up and went for a run in the morning with a good friend of mine and as her son goes to the same nursery as Mads and LL, she said she would take her so I didn’t have to take LL out the house.  This was a rare treat so LL and I stayed in our comfy clothes and snuggled on the sofa all morning.  Our nursery are pretty good and they said she could switch her hours and go in on Friday instead when she was better, so I didn’t have to worry too much about working around her.  Instead I did a few bits and bobs I needed to do and then snuggled on the sofa with her for hours.

I never normally do this.  If we are at home, I am normally tidying or we are playing games, or I am busy doing other things if they are having a bit of quiet TV time, so it’s rare we sit for a long block of time anymore and just cuddle together.  It was lovely and she even had a little snooze on the sofa which never happens anymore.  It was just a really lovely morning with her.  And this is what I mean.  These are the moments I will remember.  I remember them with Mads.  These are the moments I don’t want to forget.  The way we snuggled together and she buried her little face into my arm.  The way she looked up at me every so often and I could see in her little eyes that she was enjoying this one on one time just as much as I was.

These ordinary moments.  These non descript times.  These are the ones that will hit me one day and give me a pang of nostalgia, the ones that will come flooding back in years to come and make me feel so bittersweet that my girls are older and don’t need me like that anymore.

These are the ones that truly make me feel like a Mummy.

A Mummy who should from time to time stop and pause and relish these moments a little more than she currently does.

 

Some iPhone photos of our week of bugs…

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She fell asleep clutching her Peppa toys that go everwhere with her.

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85 Comments

  • Gwenn is one of those kids who always has a cold and a runny nose. Not ill, just always snotty. We call her a Bash St Kid!

    I completely understand how your babies being I’ll makes you feel as a mum. It’s not that you enjoy them being ill, but there’s nothing like a poorly toddler to reaffirm that you are number one in their lives. We’ve been lucky that Gwenn hasn’t had many illnesses that have knocked her for six; maybe twice in two years, which seems pretty good. But on those occasions I’ve actually enjoyed the clinginess. It’s nice to be wanted I guess!

    x

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      LL definitely is a lot snottier than Mads, Mads never has a runny nose. But we are pretty lucky in both mine rarely get the good old common cold. x

  • Carie says:

    Oh poor LL, it’s so horrid when they’re poorly and you’d do anything to make them better but lovely that you got to have a day just snuggling together and cosseting your littlest girl. And your nursery sound wonderful, to be able to switch days around really takes the pressure off needing to be at home to be Mummy and the back of your mind running through everything you need to be doing!

  • I felt the same when Ella was so poorly last week. There is something about a poorly child that really brings out the mum role. I hope she’s feeling much better now xx

  • Very sweet photos. Funnily enough,we’ve had a very similar day to this this week, too. My girl was full of coughs and a cold so she had a rare day off school and we all played, snuggled and stayed in all day. Though ill, it did still feel special. I hope you’re all healthy there now x

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      Hope you are are all feeling better now- those kind of sick days are definitely a bittersweet treat aren’t they? x

  • 76sunflowers says:

    You’ve captured what sounds like a pretty yuck time beautifully with your words and pics. I so get the wanted to be needed part – mine are getting far too independent! X

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      Thank you- and I will be sad when that day happens- but then I guess independence brings it’s perks too! x

  • Oh, poor LL – we have been exactly the same for the past week or so: I really identified with the hot forehead and crusty nose! But you’re right, in those moments you hug your child close and feel that you will be there for them forever, whatever it takes – parenthood is about so much more than the good times, and just as well :-)

  • Beautiful photos Katie, although I’m sorry to hear LL has been unwell. Really hope she’s feeling better now xxx

  • Lina says:

    Ah bless her, it’s so nice that you are able to take a day to spend some time with her and look after her without worrying about work. I find that is the best thing about being self employed. Work can wait but snuggles for poorly people can’t. I hope she is better now x

  • Katie, I am crying. This is just, gorgeous. I know the feelings you mean, it is basically motherhood in a nutshell and at its most raw. Just beautiful. Hope she’s all better now xxx

  • Aww bless her she does look poorly! Monkey is very rarely like this and has to be really ill to want to snuggle, he generally still wants to be on the go, even when he is poorly, though that then makes him grouchy and on a very short fuse… Which makes me on a short fuse then I feel guilty as I know he’s not well. I wish he would just relax and snuggle it sounds lovely! Xx

  • Oh bless her, I hope she’s feeling better now! I know what you mean about when they’re feeling ill, and makes you feel really wanted and needed as a Mummy. My two were poorly the other week, and I some time with each of them on the sofa whilst they dozed, and you’re right, moments like that are so special x

  • Lauren says:

    Oh Poor LL. I hope she is feeling better now. I have a poorly Harry at the moment and last night I let him stay downstairs on the sofa with me. It reminded me so much of when he was a proper baby and really *needed* me xx

  • Life at the Little Wood says:

    Oh bless her! I hope she’s feeling better now Katie! Xx

  • I hope she is feeling better soon. Harry has just got over chicken pox and wasn’t overly poorly but he did need comforting during the night and came into our bed every night, just as we had managed a whole week of him staying in his own bed. It made me realise that although I might often think “Oh my goodness, slow down!” that he still needs me and that is just lovely (however tiring at the moment!). You have captured it beautifully! x

  • Kerry says:

    Poor LL, its awful when they are ill but I do love having more cuddles. Such a lovely written post. I hope she is feeling back to her self in no time xx

  • Heledd says:

    I know exactly what you mean!! Our little Pops (who’s never ill) got a very similar cold/ fever the week before and spent one whole day asleep on the sofa. We had so many sleepy cuddles that week and as much as I hated seeing her like that I did feel very special and very loved. Love your ordinary moments! xxx

  • From one busy bee to another I know that feeling so much. But I guess we have to give ourselves some slack, everything we do is for them. The boys still are in we me, taking it in turns each night at the moment and Rich ends up in the spare room. But there’s nothing else they need than a cuddle. How can I refuse?! Precious 3am cuddles are exhausting but really they are the best xxxx Hope the girls have a nice germ free few weeks now for you xxx

  • Ali says:

    hope you’re house is bug free this week, that photo with Peppa Pig toys is so cute. Can’t believe they were taken on an iPhone.

  • Donna says:

    Oh she looks so tiny asleep on the sofa. Bless her. I hope she’s feeling a lot better now. I hate them being poorly too but they are definitely the rawest moment x

  • LauraCYMFT says:

    Hope LL is feeling much better now. It’s horrid when they are feeling unwell. But it is lovely to have a cuddle and know they are happiest just lying with you. Beautiful pictures. x

  • What a poor wee toot. Nothing worse than seeing one of your little ones not feeling themselves. But I know what you mean about the snuggles and that feeling of them needing you. Hope she’s feeling much better now and you all have a good week xx

  • I know she was ill but what lovely photos. Your post has made me realise I need to make some more time for cuddles. Some great memories made x

  • This is a beautiful post and made me well up a little as I thought of my kids when they were little and poorly! Thanks for sharing such precious moments x

  • Jenny says:

    Oh hunny I always feel the same when my two are sick too. I hope LL is doing so much better. I always try to stop the world and just hold them. It really is such a raw and mothering feeling being their everything in time of need. Buba busted his gums and possibly two teeth out long story today but I felt that why I tried to keep him calm and get him to stop screaming hours later. It was awful. You want to take their pain away and be their hero in their time of need. It’s very emotional for sure. Beautiful post.

  • Oh I hope she feels better now! I know exactly what you mean though- sometimes I feel bad for that split second that I ‘like’ her being ill so I can have some really snugly cuddles. X

  • Oh, poor LL, I really hope she is feeling better now. You write so beautifully about motherhood Katie. I hate it when R is poorly and there is nothing I can offer but a hug. It’s lovely that you enjoyed lots of snuggles this week, and such gorgeous pictures xx

  • Poor little LL – such a sweetheart, hope she’s back to full health now xx

  • I hope LL is feeling better. The job you’ve done on the girls’ bedroom is incredible! Been really enjoying seeing the progress and love seeing your pics on Facebook if I miss them on IG! Yay for cuddly days on the sofa! Nicki xx

  • Aww I hope LL is feeling better now lovely. It is awful when they are it, but I like the quiet time a little if I am honest. Gorgeous pictures xxx

  • Oh bless her heart, she really doesn’t look well :( I completely understand your sentiments here because although it can sometimes be an inconvenience having them at home, just feeling ‘needed’ is a rare treat on occasion – especially when they are getting older ands much more independent. Love snuggles. x

  • These are lovely photos, I especially love the one of her clutching her peppa pig toys. I know what you mean about them not needing you one day but actually I still need my mum now at 31 so hopefully our girls will still turn to us when they are older :-) x

  • Awk the poor wee dote, she looks so peaceful whilst she’s asleep though. we are lucky too that our little lady rarely gets sick but when she does it hits her hard. I treasure those sickly cuddles too. Hope she’s feeling much better soon x

  • Kate✚ says:

    I know exactly how you feel. Poor LL – sounds like she’s been really under the weather. Hope she feels much better soon x

  • Thanks for hosting the #ordinarymoments link-up!
    Hope you’re all bug free soon…it really is scary when their temperatures start to soar. Illness and night times are often when are children are the most vulnerable & it is really lovely to be able to be there for them x

  • Mummy Fever says:

    Oh no hate it when they are ill – thanks for hosting. Have a good week x

  • Oh bless her, I hope she’s feeling better soon. Freddie is the same- he won’t settle in our bed, he’ll wriggle about and not be able to settle, so when he’s ill it’s a bit of a nightmare for us all. You’re so right, it’s these moments when they are ill and in most need of Mummy that are the most emotional xx

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      Mads sleeps so well in our bed but LL just doesn’t like it, maybe it will come in time when they are a little bigger? x

  • Honest Mum says:

    I always feel this way when my little ones are unwell, gorgeous pictures despite illness, hope all is well now xx

  • Amber says:

    Such gorgeous images – so raw and full of emotion. You capture reality beautifully.

    I hope that your precious little one feels better soon.

  • Alex {Bump to Baby} says:

    Katie I love the way you write and capture things like this. You always manage to explain motherhood so well. Poor LL though, it’s not nice to watch your little one feeling poorly. I hope she is feeling better now xx

  • Oh bless her holding on to her little Peppa toys while she is asleep. I hate it when Elsa is poorly but I absolutely agree with you that I cherish every second that she needs me. One day she won’t want a Mummy cuddle when she’s ill, she will just want to be left alone :( Elsa doesn’t really get ill but when she does she really feels sorry for herself. I hope your little one is better soon.

    PS – I LOVE those Elmo PJs :)

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      They are super cute PJ’s aren’t they? And exactly, one day they won’t want them so it is actually really bittersweet. x

  • Her eyelashes are truly beautiful. I hope she is feeling much better very soon. I love having the kids in our bed when they’re ill. I can’t get enough of them. Gorgeous snaps xx

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      I know I would kill for her eyelashes- they have always been so long! It is lovely having them in with you isn’t it? x

  • Mary says:

    Oh I am sorry to hear that LL hasn’t been well – it is a roller coaster at these times, loving snuggles but also drained with it all – I feel the same! I hope she’s doing well now and this week is getting back to normal.

    Lovely pics though – shes so scrummy!

  • Notmyyearoff says:

    Ahh its so horrible when they are poorly but the snuggles are the absolute bestest aren’t they? Hope she is back to her happy bouncy self now x

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