{The Ordinary Moments 15} #2 ‘Logic will take you from A to B, Imagination will take you Everywhere.’

 

‘Logic will take you from A to B.  Imagination will take you Everywhere.’

Albert Einstein


As a parent I beat myself up a lot and I question myself as a mother.  Most nights I lie in bed and I think, I should have done more with the girls today, or I should have put my phone down a little more, or I shouldn’t have lost my patience over something so small.  I know I am a good Mum but sometimes I worry I am not the best Mum I can be.  Perhaps they have watched too much television that day, or I gave them too much chocolate or I didn’t pay them enough attention- I often feel a lot of guilt.  I think that is inevitable sometimes as a parent.

I’m not a ‘crafty’ Mum. I think I can count on one hand the amount of times we have painted in the four years Mads has been here.  Don’t get me wrong, we do it every now and again, but our dining table is quite small and on carpet and I just hate the mess it makes for about ten minutes of playing. If I am being deeply honest though, I could put a plastic sheet down, but I just would rather do it at play groups or let them do it at nursery.  We occasionally play with Play Dough because Mads absolutely loves it, but again I do it with reluctance as it always manages to find it’s way onto the carpet.  We don’t do other crafts much and I don’t think I have ever made anything from an egg box.

I am not a teaching Mum.  Of course I teach them every day- I teach them manners, I teach them life skills and I teach them right from wrong.  I am helping them learn and shaping them into who they are going to be.  What I mean is I don’t often sit down and really teach Mads curriculum based things- we do practice writing, or letters, or sums, but I don’t spend ages teaching her.  I always forget my phonics and I need teaching in them myself!  I don’t need her to be a genius and she isn’t particularly advanced for her age, apart from in her speech, but she’s doing just fine and is a bright little girl.  She’s well loved at nursery and is turning out to be quiet the comedienne.

But when I am feeling a little down or guilty about what I have or haven’t done that day then I remember what I am good at.  And that’s fueling their imaginations.  I love to help encourage my girls minds.  Just this week we have been police officers, nurses and knights.  I have been a dragon that has been captured on the floor with a knight and a princess lying on top of me, I have been given endless cups of tea, and had to eat wooden pizza which was a little too hot from the oven at least 60 times.  I spent an hour shouting ‘Ladies and Gentleman please welcome Harry and Zayn from One Direction’ over and over again, while two little people ran on to the stage and shaked and danced while ‘singing’ into a microphone.  I immerse my girls into a world of make believe.  It’s an ordinary part of our life and it’s definitely an everyday occurance.

Which brings me to my ‘Ordinary Moment’ for this week.  One of the favourite presents I got our girls for Christmas were some story stones.  I randomly found them by chance when I was looking for inspiration for their stockings and I just fell in love with them.  Such a simple idea, just painted stones with a colourful picture each side, but I knew that the girls would think they were great.  They are little magpies, they love to collect ‘treasures’ and I more often than not find buttons, little bits of plastic and random stones in bags, pockets and under pillows.

We use the stones to create stories and to encourage their imaginations.  The sad man might go and fly a kite with a mouse and then become happy, so he drinks a drink of juice and then goes in a plane to find his baby.  I let Mads completely make up the stories and I absolutely love hearing her create these scenarios and tales in her head.  They definitely were such a brilliant present and I am currently waiting for another set to arrive that I bought with some of their Christmas money.

I absolutely love to see my girl’s imaginations grow and flourish.  It’s a tiny little bit of make believe in our ordinary day to day lives.

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It was absolutely amazing to see so many people link up to the 1st Ordinary Moments of 2015 last week- thank you to everyone who linked up.  As you read this I am currently doing something very unordinary as my little family are in the sunshine on holiday, so the lovely Donna over at What the Redhead Said is going to host the Ordinary Moments for me this week.  Head over to her to link up and I will make sure I visit them all when I get home.  And as always please try and comment on a few if you can as the whole point of linkies is to spread the blog love!  Do check back later in the week as people add to it all week, not just Sunday.  🙂

NB: I paid for the Story Stones and the lady who I bought them off doesn’t know I am writing about them- I just wanted to share them because they really are a lovely gift.)

 

43 Comments

  • Carie says:

    Story stones are wonderful, you can just have endless fun with them and the sillier the better! And for the record I think you’re an awesome mum, I think we all get to the end of the day and think that we could or should have done xyz differently but we’re all just trying to be the best we can be. And for what it’s worth I also believe that playdoh can be happily confined to nursery too!

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      They really are wonderful aren’t they? I hadn’t herd of them before but it seems they are really popular! Play Doh is the devil! 😉 x

  • Oh wow the story stones are a wonderful idea, so sweet!!
    I hate how much as parents we beat ourselves up, it really is bad!! I love the fact you do imaginative play so much, Arthur is starting to show little signs of imaginative play and it’s something that really excites me!!! Hope you are having a fantastic time in the sun lovely lady xxx

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      They are so lovely- we are so pleased with them. Imaginative play is so much fun, you will love it when arthur starts to respond to it a bit more. x

  • Katrina says:

    I love this quote Katie, I bought a post card with it on

  • We used to use story stones with the children when I was teaching, and they are absolutely fantastic for sparking imaginative play and story creation. And I actually ordered some (very similar ones, but I don’t think they are quite the same) for BB for Christmas… spooky twin minds again there clearly. They didn’t arrive in time and are now tucked away for a birthday present.
    We’ll have to get Mads and BB making us up some stories next time we get together. x

  • Anna-Marie says:

    I am so like this.. I worry I don’t do enough and then I dwell on it for days! I hate messy play and now we have a big enough kitchen I cannot get away with not doing it, i only doing painting activities when Mr B is off! Play-Doh is an exception as both Moo and H love it.. I adore this post Katie and can really relate to it.. The stones are amazing and so clever xx

  • Cerys says:

    What a great idea! Love these! And happy holidays xx

  • Katie, I don’t think you need to feel guilty about any of that stuff. As a teacher, the only thing we ever really wanted parents to do with their children was ready to them… The rest is bonus. Fuelling imagination is so important for their development, their understanding of the world and later on for their writing. Sounds like you’re doing just fine!! LOVE those story stones… My girls also love treasures. Where are they from??

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      The link is on the post Claire but if you type ‘Story Stones Lou’ into google you will also find them- I got them via Etsy- they are fab aren’t they? xx

  • Jenny says:

    These stones look amazing. I need to get some for the kids. I love anything that bring on their imagination and gets them being creative. Great post hunny hope you enjoy your holidays can’t wait for the spamming holiday photos.

  • Mummy Says says:

    Katie, don’t feel guilty lovely – you are such a thoughtful mother and your girls are so happy that they are clearly doing great. You’re doing great too. As Claire said, I also think fuelling their imagination is the most important thing at this age. The story stones are lovely too by the way – what a great find xx

  • Donna says:

    I love these stones! I think you and I are quite similar – I force myself to do crafty things or arty things when really the mess makes me want to run and hide and never have any paint in the house! But I play kitchens, and lego and princesses and all that kind of thing every single day, and I love it. I haven’t started to teach LP academic type things at home, she can’t count much, doesn’t know the alphabet and definitely can’t write but she is only 3 and a half, she loved to play, her imagination is amazing and she makes everyone laugh every single day. I think we’re doing ok 🙂 x

  • Claire says:

    Fantastic stones – do you have a link please? x

  • These would have been my ideal toy as a child! And I’m quite sure John would love them too.

    And I love your way of thinking when it comes to teaching & encouraging imagination. My Mum always did this with my sisters & I and I still thank her for it to this day. xo

  • LauraCYMFT says:

    These look like so much fun. Sometimes it is the simplest of things that can capture hours of fun. Hope you are having a fantastic holiday!

  • Katie says:

    I love them and have never heard of them before! Totally going to get some as i think they might spark a little creativity in my very mechanical boy! xxx
    p.s wow holiday looks fab have an amazing time xxx

  • Kerry says:

    These look and sound amazing! I must buy some for Amelia, she would love them 🙂 xx

  • Amy says:

    Oh Katie, what a beautifully written post. You have put into words the way I have felt as most of my time as a Mother and have really only recently realised that it doesn’t matter. Believe me hun, I have felt that same way exactly. It’s so easy to be hard on yourself, and think you could do more. I have learnt this from having Lewis and Holly, now teenagers who have grown into wonderful young adults despite my reluctance to paint and craft with them and do some other things you mention but what I did do was help grown their imagination, like you have, and show them a bit of the world-and nurture them. So don’t feel like you are not the best you can be and believe me when I say, for those girls you couldn’t possibly get any better or more magical. xxx

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      Thank you for such a lovely comment Amy- and it sounds like you have done an amazing job. Your comment made me get a bit teary, especially the last sentence. xx

  • Oh Katie, I beat myself up all the time about things I do or do not do with the children! I’m coming to terms with the fact though that this is parenthood and this worrying will continue until the day I die and that I’d better get used to it! I think knowing our strengths is a great thing and we should feel good about the areas that we excel more in. You see, my heart sinks a little when Freddie asks me to ‘pretend I’m a train’ and run up and down the hallway, or do other ‘role play’ stuff (I do it, but not that willingly!), yet I love doing crafts, baking and playing board games and doing puzzles with them. We are all different, yet all great parents in our different ways- the world would be a much duller place if we were all the same! x ps hope you’re having a fab holiday you lucky thing!

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      I think your right Becky, I think we always find something to worry about or worry we are not good enough about. We should combine both of us together and we would be an amazing super mum! 😉 x

  • Jess says:

    What a lovely post! I’m not really crafty either, I have all these amazing ideas but never actually do them, I think when Abbie is older or at Nursery, she’ll get to do it all properly, rather than having OCD mum watching where the paintbrush is going! I absolutely love these little story stones, think I need to get some for Abbie! xx

  • I think these look great, I might try to find some for Baby. I always feel I should be doing more sensory/messy/crafty things with Baby. Think it”s a mother’s guilt thing x

  • Those story stones are so lovely.

    I catch myself all the time feeling guilty for something or worrying H will arrive at school on his first day held back because he doesn’t write his own name at age 3. I think we all feel that way at times but we’re all doing things that other mothers aren’t yet in our way we’re all the perfect parents for our little ones.

    xxx

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      If it makes you any better Mads can only just about write her own name at age 4. 😉 And LL hardly says a word at nearly 2. x

  • Camille says:

    Oh I bet my kids would love these. I’ve never seen them before.

    PS I am not crafty at all either. Sometimes I feel like a really crappy parent, but honestly we all parent in our own way and we are the perfect mother for our own kids.

  • I am completely the opposite most of the time. I think I am in denial because I am a terrible Mum in some respects, I tell myself that so long as the children are happy, clean and fed then we have survived another day lol. Blogging can make it seem like we do crafty things, or I teach them loads, but most of the time, we are just surviving another postnatal day. I think you are an awesome Mum Katie, and you’re right, we probably all feel guilty (apart from me who’s in denial lol), these story stones are wonderful and I loved seeing the pics of them as knights and princesses, they have such beautifully different personalities xxx can’t wait to hear all about the holiday when you’re back #ordinarymoments

  • I love those story atones, what an amazing idea! Monkey’s imagination is really growing at the moment and it is so much fun playing with him, I may have to look at getting some of those stones! And by the way you are a fab mum, don’t ever think otherwise xx

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