‘Logic will take you from A to B. Imagination will take you Everywhere.’
As a parent I beat myself up a lot and I question myself as a mother. Most nights I lie in bed and I think, I should have done more with the girls today, or I should have put my phone down a little more, or I shouldn’t have lost my patience over something so small. I know I am a good Mum but sometimes I worry I am not the best Mum I can be. Perhaps they have watched too much television that day, or I gave them too much chocolate or I didn’t pay them enough attention- I often feel a lot of guilt. I think that is inevitable sometimes as a parent.
I’m not a ‘crafty’ Mum. I think I can count on one hand the amount of times we have painted in the four years Mads has been here. Don’t get me wrong, we do it every now and again, but our dining table is quite small and on carpet and I just hate the mess it makes for about ten minutes of playing. If I am being deeply honest though, I could put a plastic sheet down, but I just would rather do it at play groups or let them do it at nursery. We occasionally play with Play Dough because Mads absolutely loves it, but again I do it with reluctance as it always manages to find it’s way onto the carpet. We don’t do other crafts much and I don’t think I have ever made anything from an egg box.
I am not a teaching Mum. Of course I teach them every day- I teach them manners, I teach them life skills and I teach them right from wrong. I am helping them learn and shaping them into who they are going to be. What I mean is I don’t often sit down and really teach Mads curriculum based things- we do practice writing, or letters, or sums, but I don’t spend ages teaching her. I always forget my phonics and I need teaching in them myself! I don’t need her to be a genius and she isn’t particularly advanced for her age, apart from in her speech, but she’s doing just fine and is a bright little girl. She’s well loved at nursery and is turning out to be quiet the comedienne.
But when I am feeling a little down or guilty about what I have or haven’t done that day then I remember what I am good at. And that’s fueling their imaginations. I love to help encourage my girls minds. Just this week we have been police officers, nurses and knights. I have been a dragon that has been captured on the floor with a knight and a princess lying on top of me, I have been given endless cups of tea, and had to eat wooden pizza which was a little too hot from the oven at least 60 times. I spent an hour shouting ‘Ladies and Gentleman please welcome Harry and Zayn from One Direction’ over and over again, while two little people ran on to the stage and shaked and danced while ‘singing’ into a microphone. I immerse my girls into a world of make believe. It’s an ordinary part of our life and it’s definitely an everyday occurance.
Which brings me to my ‘Ordinary Moment’ for this week. One of the favourite presents I got our girls for Christmas were some story stones. I randomly found them by chance when I was looking for inspiration for their stockings and I just fell in love with them. Such a simple idea, just painted stones with a colourful picture each side, but I knew that the girls would think they were great. They are little magpies, they love to collect ‘treasures’ and I more often than not find buttons, little bits of plastic and random stones in bags, pockets and under pillows.
We use the stones to create stories and to encourage their imaginations. The sad man might go and fly a kite with a mouse and then become happy, so he drinks a drink of juice and then goes in a plane to find his baby. I let Mads completely make up the stories and I absolutely love hearing her create these scenarios and tales in her head. They definitely were such a brilliant present and I am currently waiting for another set to arrive that I bought with some of their Christmas money.
I absolutely love to see my girl’s imaginations grow and flourish. It’s a tiny little bit of make believe in our ordinary day to day lives.
It was absolutely amazing to see so many people link up to the 1st Ordinary Moments of 2015 last week- thank you to everyone who linked up. As you read this I am currently doing something very unordinary as my little family are in the sunshine on holiday, so the lovely Donna over at What the Redhead Said is going to host the Ordinary Moments for me this week. Head over to her to link up and I will make sure I visit them all when I get home. And as always please try and comment on a few if you can as the whole point of linkies is to spread the blog love! Do check back later in the week as people add to it all week, not just Sunday. 🙂
NB: I paid for the Story Stones and the lady who I bought them off doesn’t know I am writing about them- I just wanted to share them because they really are a lovely gift.)