{The Ordinary Moments 15} #5 ‘Spotty’.

The one word I could use to describe this week is ‘long’.  On Saturday morning last week we noticed that Mads had a spot on her eye and a couple of spots on her tummy.  By lunchtime they had tripled, and by the following day she was covered in them.  The chicken pox had well and truly arrived.  Sunday was the worst day, she wasn’t happy at all and lay on the sofa all day, complaining that she was cold but with a really high temperature.  She was really clingy and all she wanted to do was be close to us.  She rarely comes in our bed in the night, but we let her sleep with us which to her is a real treat.  She snuggled in close in the middle of us both and cuddled us all night.

Them being poorly is a bittersweet thing.  With things like the chicken pox, you know it won’t last forever and while you wouldn’t wish for them to be ill, there is a element of feeling like this is what motherhood is all about.  That while the fun, games and picture perfect moments are part and parcel of life, it’s things like this that remind you what it really means to be a mother.  To be the one they need.  To be the one that can help soothe the pain, even though you can’t make it completely better, you can be that comfort blanket that makes them feel reassured.  Feeling those little hot, feverish arms round me in the night, it makes me reassess what’s important.  It makes me realise what really matters.

But inevitably when they are sick, it does play havoc with your schedule.  As I work freelance, I am very used to fitting my time around my children.  Indeed that’s why I do it- I snatch moments during naptime, or work most evenings, or go and sit in a hotel at the weekend when Mr E is around to look after them.  They go to nursery two long mornings a week, from 9-2, so I can get the bulk of it done.  But I haven’t got the balance quite right yet- I get stressed, I feel like I am behind and I have to work till late in the evening sometimes because I just haven’t got enough done.  When you throw a poorly little person into the mix, I just about manage to keep on top of things.

She hasn’t been able to go to nursery at all this week obviously and as such I have struggled to get things done.  I feel a little on edge as I don’t like to feel like I am behind and it will take me a lot of late nights and things to catch up.  But it’s worth it.  I know I am lucky to be able to be at home with them full stop, and especially when they are under the weather.  As parents we all make sacrifices or have our own challenges- whether that’s working full time in an office, working until midnight because you work from home, or whether you stay at home full time.  And even though I get a little stressed, like I said before, I know it’s worth it.

I have actually relished the time alone with my biggest girl.  LL has still gone into nursery as normal and I have spent days snuggled up on the sofa with Mads.  We have played together, cuddled constantly and had one on one lunches together.  We have chatted, laughed and made up stories.  I have enjoyed every single cuddle, every single ear flick and every single  ‘I love you Mummy.’  She slept with us for three nights in total and as her little body moudled against mine, I yet again was reminded of exactly what it felt like to be the person that they want and need.

She’s almost better and will be back at nursery next week.  The Pox will be a distant memory as she scuttles off to play with her friends that she has missed.  But while this week hasn’t been completely plain sailing, I have extra special memories of a week of cuddles and contentment with my eldest daughter.

 A week that has reminded me what a privilege it is to be the person they call Mummy.

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  • Lina says:

    Ah poor Mads. I really don’t like chicken pox – it seems like such a cruel illness to get when they are so little and don’t understand. It must be awful to be that spotty and itchy. I feel your pain about balancing freelance work with a sick child, but you are quite right – we are so lucky to be able to work flexibly to enable us to look after them. It may mean a few late nights and a very tired mummy but it’s worth it to be there for them when they need you the most. I hope she feels better soon and prepare yourself – LL will be next!

  • Bless her. H had the pox when he was about 14 months and it was the first time h had been sick and needed me off work. It’s stressful but as you say, it’s a big part of being a parent and the feeling of being so needed and so important to them is parenthood defined xx

  • Carie says:

    Oh poor Mads she looks so little in your pictures. And I agree completely, the essence of motherhood is doing the hard bits even when it means that the rest of life gets a bit squished. And when you have a week where you feel like all you’ve done are chores and the boring bits of life to have them run to you because they want Mummy makes you full to bursting!

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      When they are poorly they always seem much littler don’t they? I’ve liked having a small cuddly girl this week. x

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      When they are poorly they always seem much littler don’t they? I’ve liked having a small cuddly girl this week. x

  • Bless her. It is so hard isn’t it when you work from home and any of them or you are unwell. This is the thing we struggled with the most and led to Martina being invited into the mix. Everything was halting to a stop as the babies kept passing illness around each other. Well done you for getting through the week and mostly being on top of everything. Like you said it’s what being a Mother is all about and sounds like little Mads, although won’t be glad of being unwell, she’ll love looking back at all this extra cuddle time xx

  • Mummy Says says:

    Awww, poor little thing. My two both had chicken pox before Christmas, 21 days apart. I thought Milin had it bad, but then Jasmin was really knocked by it. Being at home with her was perfect though as she just wanted her mummy to be close to her. You are, as you say, so lucky to be at home with them – and the late nights are worth it. Well done mummy, it’s hard isn’t it, but worth it to be there for them. Glad she is better now xxx

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      I am wondering when LL is going to get it- they say that don’t they, that one sibling often gets it a lot worse than the other. x

  • Aww bless you both, the first few days of chicken pox are awful. I remember Lil G having them two weeks after his 1st birthday. Like you there is something so sweet and special about them needing you, that moment when you hear they say ‘mummy I need you’. I am glad that she is starting to feel better and the balance can be restored for you, juggling parenthood and work really is another challenge isn’t it. It’s awful how much pressure we put ourselves under, try hard to be too hard on yourself honey. I am a strong believer in that there is always a little bit of wiggle room in a deadline. I hope you are having a lovely weekend. The pictures look amazing. I need those wooden beams x

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      Thanks lovely, I do think we put yourselves under more pressure than there actually is pressure to be under if that makes sense!? x

  • Anna-Marie says:

    Oh Katie, Pox is awful and something i am so glad we have battled here! Hopefully LL will not get it as bad, if she gets it at all! Some siblings go on and on without getting it! Gorgeous natural photos xx

  • Bless her, I’m glad she is on the mend now. You’re so right about when they are poorly how much of a reminder it is that we are the ones they want and need!!
    It’s amazing that LL didn’t get it as well!!

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      I think there is still a period where LL could get it- about 2 weeks- and then she could pick it up from nursery when Mads got it in the first place. We shall see! 😉 x

  • Bryony says:

    Ow… chicken pox really are the worst! It makes you go all ‘mama bear’ doesn’t it? I just wanted to wrap my babies up in cotton wool and never let any germs get to them again! I love that photo of the pair of them in the bath… gorgeous!

  • Ah the pox is horrible, Cherry didn’t have it too badly but Tiger was so ill. There was one night where he didn’t sleep at all and just cried for hours, it was awful. I found the worst thing was being stuck indoors for so long, Tiger caught it about a week after Cherry so we were indoors for about a month! It is so hard not to get stressed when behind with work but like you said it’s when our job as mummy becomes the most important of all and them needing our cuddles is such a privilege xx

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      It’s horrible isn’t it? Luckily even though she was covered, I don’t think she reacted that badly to them, bar one day when she wouldn’t get off the sofa. You are right, it’s definitely a privilege. x

  • Ah, bless her – it’s never nice to be ill and itchy with chickenpox, but good in some ways to catch it now while she’s young. And it’s lovely to share a bed sometimes, especially if you don’t do it often – being right next to them ready to comfort them in their poorliness (in my case this week rubbing a cold-filled baby’s little back) is, like you say, sometimes exactly what being a mum is all about.

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      Yes I agree, I definitely think it’s better for them to get it out the way. Hope your little one is better soon too. xx

  • Oh, poor thing, glad that she’s getting better now. I know just what you mean, though. When my oldest is ill and needs me, I do quite enjoy our one to one time and cuddles. Yes, illness plays havoc with my work, too, and I get stressed, but as you say, that’s the point of being at home, isn’t it? My pair had chicken pox a couple of summers ago, so at least we have that one out the way!

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      Exactly, we do these things, we get a little stressed, but at the end of the day that’s why we make the choice to be at home. xx

  • Triona McKee says:

    Isn’t it just awful when they are sick, but equally I do love the extra cuddles too! Poor little girl, hope that she is having a much better weekend! I love your idea of going to a hotel to work…. I may do that myself and sit with coffee to write my posts! Being a mum really is being a Jack of all trades, but it is the best feeling in the world to be wanted and needed that much! Lovely post xxx

  • Kerry says:

    Glad Mads is starting to feel better. On the plus side you’ve had lots of cuddles this week 🙂 There’s nothing worse than chicken pox. I dread it when my two will have them. But i suppose its best to get them out of the way whilst they are young. xx

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      I definitely think they say that it’s best that they get them out the way. But it isn’t nice for them. Or us. x

  • Jenny says:

    Oh those darn pesky pox. She still looks beautiful with or without pox tho. And amazing to be still smiling!! Lovely post hun will be joining in tonight or Tomo when I get back from Leeds.

  • Ahh poor girl. I do love that when my boisterous and very independent little boys are poorly they want lots of mummy cuddles. Hope she feels better soon x

  • Donna says:

    Oh your poor big girl! We haven’t had pox here yet and I’m dreading when it does come. Glad that she’s nearly better and you can all get back to your routine x

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      Thanks Donna all back to normal one. Hopefully your’s won’t be too poorly when they get it, if they get it at all! x

  • Ah Katie I know exactly what you mean by them being ill has its upsides. Mine are rarely ill but when they are, that’s when I’m needed most and my role comes into its own. I hope your little lady is all better now x

  • Carla says:

    Poor baby 🙁 I hope she feels better soon. I am dreading chicken pox hitting our household x

  • Caroline says:

    Thats so sweet, I get what you mean about liking how needed we are as parents when they are poorly, I can’t stand sickness bugs but sometimes its nice to have a snuggly day.

  • Poor Mads – glad she is feeling better. I hope LL gives you a break before she gets it …

  • Oh bless her, we haven’t had the chicken pox yet, but when it does i’m sure it’ll feel like a tough time, but all part of motherhood as you say and it doesnt last forever, so much love & embracing will be best. She looks so snuggly, I remember when we thought Yve’s had them but was something else although very similar other than on her back. it was horrible watching her be so sad 🙁 xx

  • Hi Katie! Thank you for hosting this linky – I am new to linkys in general as of this week! Sorry to hear you’ve had a poorly week but you’re right, when they’re ill it reminds you of the privilege it is to be a parent and makes you feel lucky to be the one that can make them feel a little better. Love your photos and your Instagram! Enjoy the rest of your weekend and have a great week. Nicki & Joseph xx

  • Oh bless her, I hope she feels better soon- both of mine had the dreaded pox before Christmas, and it’s no fun feeling rubbish and unable to go anywhere! x

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      It’s the hibernation that’s definitely the worst thing isn’t it? Cause after a few days she felt better but we weren’t allowed out! 😉 x

  • Mary says:

    As sad as it is to read of Mads being poorly and no doubt itchy too this has being a great reminder of how good it actually is to be able to be at home with them. I love how honest you are with how tough balancing everything is, but couldn’t agree more with what a privilege it is too.

  • Lauren says:

    It’s amazing how quickly chicken pox come out isn’t it? One minute there are hardly any and then all of a sudden they are covered!
    Mads looks like she has her baby face back in the second photo.
    I hope you can catch up with your work and feel a bit more settled this week xxx

  • You are so good at seeing the positive in everything. I am so glad she is better and I really hope you manage to get your work done. I definitely get panicky when I know I need to get work done, but sometimes it’s near impossible with two little ones! We are so privileged to be parents and it is such a precious responsibility x

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      Thanks Esther, I do try and be positive, it doesn’t always work but for the most part I can usually see the good points in things. xx

  • Fola Lewis says:

    poor babies, it’s not a pleasant experience and I still remember when I had chickenpox at the age of 7. Itchy but fun as my 3 sisters all got too and we had lots of fun once the worst of the itches and sicky feelings we over.
    Gorgeous pictures as always!

  • Bless poor little Mads, I am glad she is on the mend. It is awful when they are ill, but like you, a bit of me loves the extra cuddles. Lots of love hun xx

  • awk the wee dote, chicken pox is a tough thing for little ones to deal with, she’s lucky to have such a kind and caring mum. great photos as always x

  • Aw poor thing, and poor you too! I’m a freelancer too and so I know exactly what it’s like to have your work schedule go right our of the window. You’re sounding remarkably calm about it! I normally also try to just bed down, focus on the Bean and enjoy the extra cuddles, but when you’ve deadlines looming… Hope this week is better x

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      It is definitely hard isn’t it Eline? We do these things for our little people though- just lots of late nights for me to catch up! xx

  • Notmyyearoff says:

    Oh bless her poor little thing, they don’t sound pleasant but I’m so glad she’s all better now. I’m absolutely dreading it arriving here.

  • Sherry says:

    Your poor little lady! Pleased to hear she’s better now and as the mummy cuddles are so rare when they are no longer babies its a bittersweet thing when they’re poorly and want them xx

  • LauraCYMFT says:

    Aww bless her. Chicken pox are awful! I remember when my two had them. Thankfully not together; Z was first and luckily it happened during the school holidays and then Miss C, who got them about 14 days after Z had had them. They just look and feel so miserable. It’s never nice to see them unwell but I do know what you mean about feeling good that they need you more and want to be beside you and cuddling in. The work can wait because there will come a time when they won’t need us as much. Feel better soon Mads x

  • Tanita says:

    Aw bless her, get better soon. Neither of my two have had chicken pox :/ i dunno if that’s a good or a bad thing! Tanita x

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      I kept saying that about mine, but now it’s struck us! Sometimes it is good for them to get it out the way I think! x

  • Katie says:

    Bless her so glad she is on the mend now. S has also been sick this last week and off nursery when i have been the busiest i have ever been – sods law huh!
    p.s sorry with my lack of commenting/tardy commenting – this cards malarkey is talking up all my free time! xxx

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      It always happens when you are the most busy- I think they do it on purpose? 😉 Don’t worry lovely, I am so impressed with your card business- it looks amazing! xx

  • Oh god bab. I am DREADING when this happens with my two. DREADING IT. Sometimes though it is kinda nice feeling that you are really looking after them which is really lovely. It’s when you are a Mum and they need you the most. My time is surely just around the corner 🙁 x

    • Mummy Daddy Me says:

      It was a long week but now we are just in limbo waiting to see if LL will get it! Hopefully yours won’t be too affected by it. xx

  • Amy says:

    Poor you. It’s so tough when they are ill and you are freelance – I totally understand how the stress levels go through the roof.
    I thought we were going to get chicken pox a few years back but Amelie just had one spot on her face, so I am not convinced we have had it. Every time I hear that it’s doing the rounds I get the sense of dread, however it is much better to have it when they are younger. Hope she is on the mend now. x

  • Joanna says:

    pooryou. I hope that good now, as always great photos

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