{The Ordinary Moments 16} #8 ‘A Big Milestone and a Lovely Phase.’

Ever since my biggest girl was born, the one thing that people will often say when they meet her for the first time is something about her hair. She was born with a huge head of dark hair that looked like it had been sun kissed with highlights, so much so that the midwives laughed when we were in hospital and said that she looked like she had already been to the hairdressers. As she has grown her hair has changed, it went very blonde and with developed some beautiful ringlet curls.

The curls have proceeded to get curlier and curlier, with these stunning ringlets that hung down her back and swayed from side to side when she walked. It was the one thing that people used to comment on, her beautiful hair, which her sister now has too.

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Inevitably as she has got bigger, her hair has got darker and not quite so golden blond, but the one thing that has remained is her curls. However over the last few months I have noticed that they are slowly going, while her hair still has a wave to it, the tight ringlets were only at the very bottom. It also was in very bad condition, looking extremely straggly and also hard to manage. While she was a brave girl, hair wash day was always a bit of an ordeal, even with a tangle teaser hair brush it would hurt her and take ages to comb through.

For ages now both my Mum and Mr E have said that we would should cut it, but I have resisted, knowing from experience with my own hair when I was little, that cutting it would lose the last of those beautiful blond ringlets. It has been a running joke in our family for a few years now that I wouldn’t let anyone near Mads hair, apart from to trim her fringe. A couple of weeks ago she went to a school disco and I took a photo of her before she went. When I looked at the photo later her hair looked so out of condition and straggly- I decided enough was enough and that I would book her in for a hair cut in half term.


It sounds a ridiculous thing to be emotional about, but I really was so sentimental about getting it cut. It really felt like an end of an era and to me her curls were such a part of who she was. But on Friday of this week we decided to make a morning out of it with Grandma. We went out for some lunch and took her to get some new school shoes, (major expense seeing as she only got a pair in September but she has completely worn them out) before going to the place where I get my hair cut.

She was such a good girl in the hairdressers and she made me very proud as she sat still and got a wash and condition, a cut and then a blow dry. It doesn’t even look like she has had a lot off, but she has had about 3 inches, I chickened out of doing anymore. It does look better, although she has lost the last of the tight beautiful blond ringlets, there is still a bit of a wave to her hair. It looks in a lot better condition now, although I think I need to really get a little bit more cut off next time.


It’s definitely a milestone for us as for years I haven’t even entertained the idea of getting it cut. I’ve even made an appointment for her in the easter holidays to have a little more off. My little girl is growing up and I guess I just need to accept that those beautiful ringlets are a thing of the past.

Speaking of growing up, I often speak about how my children seem to go through phases. For a few weeks before Christmas I was finding Mads quite hard work, she was just generally being a bit cheeky, grumpy, over tired and not listening. But the last couple of weeks she really has been such a wonderful little girl, of course she still has her moments, but it is like she has has grown up a little. She is kind, caring and considerate, exceptionally polite and just such a pleasure to be around. She is doing so well at school, with her reading and writing, and she loves it there too. She really seems to be listening, (most of the time) is just so affectionate and generally it is like having a little best friend around. She is such a funny little character and I just love the stage we are at at the moment. I often feel like I get a little glimpse into the future of what it might be like when she is a teenager- and I hope that we will continue to have such a great relationship.

I just feel so very proud of her at the moment and will miss her now half term is almost over.




  • Carie says:

    Oh that is the end of an era! Mads looks so grown up having her hair done and I’m sure you’ll all enjoy it being easier to look after. And the joy of being a girl is when she’s grown up she can always put the curl back in!! I know what you mean about this being a lovely age – it’s been so much fun having Kitty home for half term, none of us are ready for school tomorrow!

    • Katie Ellison says:

      It really is a lovely age isn’t it? They are so affectionate and full of love and innocence, but at the same time learning about the world. xx

  • Anna-Marie says:

    I love Mads long hair and I sometimes wish G had long curly hair.. G’s hair is just a pain at the moment and like you resist going to get it cut. She has no definition to it whatsoever and sometimes just looks lank.. Sounds like Mads was a superstar! I had to buy new shoes this week too! Never had to buy shoes mid-year for G!! Something I wasn’t expecting! Goodness knows what she did to them at school!

  • Jess says:

    Oh such gorgeous photos, she’s going to have the best memories to look back on! My Mum never wanted me to have my hair cut, she loved it being long and I loved it too, in fact aside from a trim, I didn’t get it cut between the ages of 8-13! It was way past my bum but I got to the age where I wanted to try something new so had it cut to my shoulders! I absolutely loved it! It is such a big milestone, for you and Mads, those baby curls are something she’s had for so long! One day she might come home and decide she wants it all shaved off (I went through that phase), luckily it was a phase…. πŸ˜‰ x

    • Katie Ellison says:

      I definitely will miss those baby curls. And yes I went through all sorts of phases, lets hope she doesn’t. πŸ˜‰ x

  • Those curls really are so gorgeous. I can understand the emotion, it sort of symbolises the growing up doesn’t it? I too am going to miss my Little Lady when school comes around tomorrow! Xx

  • I completely understand how emotional it is cutting Mads hair, I’m bad enough with O’s. He was born with dark hair which gradually got lighter until it was bright blond. Gradually it is going darker again, just like his Daddy’s did, and with every cut a bit more of his blond is gone. My husband has dark brown hair and we think eventually O will be the same but I will always miss his white blond locks! xx

  • I think my biggest girl needs a haircut but she loves her hair and really doesn’t want it chopped off! Mads hair is beautiful and still looks so long.

  • Thank goodness for photos, so you can look back and remember the curls. Well done you for being brave and getting it cut, when you knew the baby curls would be gone forever. Well done Mads for being brave too, it can be a big thing for them too. My youngest has a few curls and I can’t wait until it grows some more and she will have little ringlets. I hope you had a good half term and start counting the days to Easter. xx

    • Katie Ellison says:

      Photo memories are the best aren’t you? She was a little superstar, I was so proud of her while she was in there cause it took about an hour all in all. Roll on easter. xx

  • Lucy says:

    Oh bless her, I’m glad she did you so proud. And I hope you were brave! Hehehe. Hopefully hair washed will be a bit easier now. It looks lovely, like you say, not really that much shorter but much healthier. x

  • Charlotte says:

    Ahhh bless her! She looks like she had great fun at the hairdressers! Hope you kept a curl or two for keepsakes?! πŸ˜‰ I remember cutting off Harvey’s curls when he was a toddler, everyone kept calling him a girl and he used to get really upset about it so we ended up cutting them off. I was gutted!! But he was a happier toddler for it! Xx

    • Katie Ellison says:

      I did keep a curl, my mum still has mine as well. Aw bless him. I think it is more of a big deal for us than them. πŸ˜‰ x

  • Everyone comments on Mabel’s hair too but she definitely has less curls now than when she was younger. I’ve had layers cut into her hair a couple of times to try and encourage the curls but I’m always emotional before a hair cut. It’s funny how hair is such a defining thing, it feel like such a big part of her. My mum says that my dad was really upset when she took me for my first haircut and they cut my curls off.

  • I’m THE same πŸ™‚ Lottie’s hair is so long now and needs a trim and I can’t face it!!! But I do think a trim is good as it keeps it in good condition. For more beautiful growing!! Lovely post and photo’s πŸ™‚ Jess xx

  • Sarah says:

    Stunning photos! LOVE the lavender field background photo.
    My daughters hair is the same, she use to be so blonde and now she’s more of a darker blonde. They grow up so fast don’t they?! xx

  • Emma says:

    Oh my goodness, your photography always makes me smile. So inspirational and beautiful, but all so… ordinary. And attainable. if that makes any sense. It’s like you make a rainbow out of a muddy puddle, you know?! xx

  • She looks adorable! But I totally know how hard these milestones can be for us Mamas! She does look very grown up getting her hair washed!

    • Katie Ellison says:

      Milestones are definitely a good emotional roller coaster aren’t they? She was so good sat in the chair having her hair washed, I didn’t think she would like it at all! xx

  • LauraCYMFT says:

    I was so upset when Miss C wanted to cut her long hair short. Mind you we only got a few inches taken off so it is still long but it was as long as Mads’ hair except hers is poker straight and quite thin. Cutting it has made it a bit thicker though. Mads looks so grown up having her done and taking it all in her stride.

    • Katie Ellison says:

      She was such a superstar! And yes I agree, i think it is just an emotional milestone having your hair cut for the first time. x

  • Aw, she’s beautiful either way but I get where you’re coming from. My partner and I both have unruly curly hair so it’s practically guaranteed our daughter will, too, and I’m already worrying about how to care for it – I can barely care for my own. At the same time, I know I wanted long, long hair as a kid so I’ll understand if she doesn’t want to wear it short…

  • Sherry says:

    The photo transitioning in this post is just lovely, firstly they are some gorgeous photos, and secondly you can see the beauty in Mads’ hair in them. I’m with you, J’s hair has the most beautiful ringlets, but as she gets older her hair will end up wavy and frizzy like mine, and I too am very reluctant to get it chopped. You can’t really tell she had it cut as such, but I can only imagine what a milestone it was x

  • She is so beautiful Katie! I understand not wanting to get mads haircut. I’ve been the same with LB, it’s gradually got shorter but when people tell me to cut it properly I’m just not ready for the proper little boy cut yet, I like it that little bit longer! It’s hard to let go X

    • Katie Ellison says:

      It is just one of those milestones we have to do as parents isn’t it? I remember my mum being emotional about me too all those years ago. x

  • Oh, Katie!! Look at her!! Such a gorgeous girl. We’ve only just had the littlest’s haircut. It’s taken three years for him to allow a pair of scissors near him and it’s amazing the transformation … from a baby to a little boy, almost. I found it quite an emotional moment, too, and I’m not particularly sentimental x

    • Katie Ellison says:

      I think that first hair cut is just a bit sentimental, even to the not so sentimental among us if that makes sense!? x

  • She has the most gorgeous hair Katie, and still does now after it’s been cut. I don’t want to cut Zach’s hair properly, and so far he’s just had a trim to keep his fringe out of his eyes. I’m not sure when I’ll be happy to let him have it done – so in a few years you may see him with hair as long as Mads’! xx

  • So hard to cut their baby curls but it looks great. I am sure that her next hair cut will be easier but good job being brave. Mads and my daughter are a year apart but I love hearing about how Mads is changing. My daughter was very difficult this last week and I hope that it is just a phase. Thank you for sharing your life with us. Loving the new living room and extension. Looking forward to Part 2.

    • Katie Ellison says:

      I definitely think now I am over the first milestone, the next hair cuts will be much better. ;0) And thanks, we are so pleased with our new extension. xx

  • Notmyyearoff says:

    It’s such an emotional thing. We had to shave Es hair off almost as it was only growing on the sides and he looked like an Einstein baby. I was so gutted though. Each time I look at Mads she’s always grown so much and I still think of her as a little girl! She looks so brave in that chair. Well done to her, and to you mummy x

  • Munch has similar hair and only had it ‘evened out’ once in almost 5 years. We have exactly the same blonde curl situation and I know that she’ll end up with dark brown hair, so want to hang onto it as long as I can. Mads looks great and I’m glad she’s passed a phase x

  • Jenny says:

    OH bless you she looks lovely with her hair done. It was the same with B to be honest he had the most amazing baby blonde curls and I refused to cut them for soooo long and even being a boy I just couldn’t and then I did and the curls were truly gone but it was long overdue for us. She looks just as beautiful and you don’t have to cut it all off I love long hair on little girls so many just bob them while they are young because it’s easier. Bless such lovely photos to look back on. Love the family running joke too been there too. πŸ™‚ I wonder if baby boy will have locks too? Thanks for hosting my lovely.

  • Kara says:

    I’ve yet to have Addy’s hair cut either, her hair is getting so dark that I feel sad that only the ends are now her beautiful blond, but like you I know it needs it.

    Well done Mama and Mads that was a big thing for you both xxx

  • Aah bless her, and what a good girl! I totally understand where you’re coming from re the hair, S has very long hair and had a teeny trim over half term as it was getting a bit straw-like, but I can’t bear for her to have any more off! x

    • Katie Ellison says:

      She was a really good girl, I was very proud of her, especially as normally she screams blue murder when we wash her hair. x

  • That is quite a milestone Katie; I always think both your girls have such gorgeous hair, I’m just waiting for the day Rosalie’s gets past her ears! Mads looks incredibly grown up in the salon. I hope hair washing is a bit easier now! Jess x

  • Kate✚ says:

    Mads is such a beauty! And I can totally relate. I waited years to get Meryn’s hair cut. And Dylan and Ayden’s actually! There’s something about that wispy baby hair that just shouldn’t be cut isn’t there?x

  • Mary says:

    Her hair is gorgeous and its exciting her sister is developing the same gorgeous curls – though probably not when it comes to brushing again haha! Megs always screams when I brush hers, and it gets bad knots so easily! Well done for taking the step to get a cut, I am sure she loved the experience and felt like a big girl!
    Reading of Mads hair at birth/as a baby reminded me of Megsie when she was born, it was huge thick curls in ash blond with highlights and people always asked “did you highlight her hair”?? errrmmmmm yes I put bleach on a newborns head haha what were they thinking?! Hers is going darker now though and often looks a bit scratty, I am debating a bob and fringe for her! x

    • Katie Ellison says:

      Haha so many people commented to me that it looked like I had highlighted it. Yes I took her to the hairdressers at a week old. πŸ˜‰ xx

  • Tanita says:

    Definitely such a huge milestone. Her hair is so beautiful and so long. Such beautiful photos xx

  • Gosh doesn’t she look like her little sister in that top pic! i’ve always loved your girl’s hair. Keep it long for as long as you can. It really frames her face so beautifully. x x

  • Ah, it looks like she loved the hairdressers! I can completely understand the attachment – those curls are gorgeous. You have such lovely photos to look back on though, and how lovely that her little sister has the same curls. I had similar curls when I was little, although sadly now it’s just a slight wave at the back really.

  • My dad wouldn’t let me get my hair cur for the same reason. He was really upset when my mum finally got all my curls cut off. Look at her little face sat in the chair – so sweet! and so good that she is in a very happy and lovely phase! May it stay forever! xx

    • Katie Ellison says:

      Aw bless him! I had hair just like Mads and then my mum cut it into a bob- we were all so shocked, me included! πŸ˜‰ x

  • Awww she looks so grown up sitting in the hairdressers chair! She is just divine xx

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