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{The Ordinary Moments 14} #8 'Special Friendships'

on Sunday, 23 February 2014.

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Friendships are a funny old thing when you become a Mother.  

I am lucky to have some great friendships in my life- a couple are old friends from school or university, some are friends I have met through Mr E, some are from having my girls, and some are through blogging.  Others I have just met somewhere along the way.  

We have a few close friends that we socialise with as a couple.  Then we have a few where we socialise as a couple or a family but perhaps one of us has the stronger friendship, for example we have Mr E's life long school friends and while it is great to see them all when we go to Manchester, it is obviously due to the fact that Mr E has such a long history with them.  We have friends on completely different paths to us- some single, some engaged, some with children a lot older than ours, and some with children the same age. 

When you become parents, naturally your life completely revolves around your children.  And of course while days out are fun whoever we are with, it certainly helps if your children get along well too.  When I started blogging I certainly didn't think that I would make such great friends, let alone one of my best ones.

I first met Lucy at a Kiddicare blog event but our families properly met for the first time at a Tots 100 Christmas party a couple of years ago.  Even at that first meeting, I could just tell we would all get along well, our husbands were similar, and of course Mads and BB were almost the same age.

I don't even know how it happened but soon I started speaking to Lucy almost every day.  Of course there are days where we don't, but I certainly speak to her far more than any of the other friends I have in my life.  Our families just seem to have clicked, and over the last year or so we have added another two little ladies to our little group.  Our children are all similar ages, and we just get on so well.  Mads and BB are just adorable together, and Mads calls him 'her best friend.'  When she finds out we are seeing them for the day she always jumps around the room in excitement.

We see each other at least a couple of times a month, sometimes more, and we haven't got any other friends where when we are together it is just so easy.  Even some of our oldest friends aren't quite the same- our days out and holidays just seem to work and I feel so genuinely lucky to have met them and have them in our lives.  I know that whatever happens with my blog in the future, we will remain friends.  Although it drives us mad when people think we can't be anywhere without the other- I get so many people ask me 'Where is Lucy?'  We aren't joined at the hip- well only sometimes and actually we are quite different although ridiculously similar at the same time.

The above photo was taken at the weekend.  Just a very ordinary moment in the park with our friends.  Our very close, family friends who I know will be in our life for a very very long time.

It's not very often you meet people that you can truly say that about.

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Comments (71)

  • PottyMouthedMummy

    PottyMouthedMummy

    23 February 2014 at 07:20 |
    I really like this post, a lovely story. it's funny how friendships change once you have a child, it's something I've been thinking about a lot lately. Looks like you had a lovely time xx
  • Lucy

    Lucy

    23 February 2014 at 07:43 |
    Ahhh, this has made me feel a bit emotional. We all love you guys to pieces and agree with every word you've said here. It's just so lovely and easy when we are together and I think our families have just clicked; and it'll be great to see how the littlest ones are together as they grow (little food loving partners in crime I suspect!!!)
    Our friendship is hands down the best thing to come out of blogging. x
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:22 |
      It most definitely is, blogging has brought me so many wonderful things, even the chance to work for myself, but if I took it all away you friendship is by far the best thing that has happened. Soppy but true. ;) x
  • Carie

    Carie

    23 February 2014 at 07:48 |
    Oh that's such a gorgeous picture! I think whole family friendships are so very special, and rather rare - as you say so often it's that one of you is the closer friend - and it's lovely to see, and lovely that you get to meet up so often. My dearest friends are in different stages of life and live what feels like a million miles away but whenever I see them it's as if we've never been apart and I cherish them.
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:22 |
      Definitely, I think family friendships are a strange dynamic, like you say with generally one friend being closer than the other. That is what is so lovely about our friendship with Lucy's family, it just seems to fit and feels equal on all accounts. x
  • Mummy Vs work

    Mummy Vs work

    23 February 2014 at 08:05 |
    That's such a lovely picture of you all :)
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:21 |
      Thank you, I love the picture! x
  • Donna

    Donna

    23 February 2014 at 08:05 |
    Such a lovely, happy photo that shows a great friendship! It's lovely that you've found each other :) x
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:21 |
      Thanks Donna! x
  • Mummy to boyz

    Mummy to boyz

    23 February 2014 at 08:12 |
    What a lovely post it made me smile reading it this morning.
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:20 |
      Thank you :)
  • kara

    kara

    23 February 2014 at 08:25 |
    Gorgeous post. You have such a special relationship and being with you both that is obvious. Blogging is so awesome x
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:18 |
      Thanks Kara, your friendship is another I am very thankful for. x
  • Lucinda Turner

    Lucinda Turner

    23 February 2014 at 08:46 |
    'Good' are Friends really important, I find it hard to keep in touch with all of them since becoming a mum. Lovely to hear about your different friendships x
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:17 |
      Thanks Lucinda! x
  • Seychellesmama

    Seychellesmama

    23 February 2014 at 10:05 |
    What a lovely picture, every one looks like they are having a great time. It's so nice to have so many different types of friends, means it never gets dull!!
    I love your jacket by the way xx
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:16 |
      Thank you lovely! x
  • Lauren

    Lauren

    23 February 2014 at 10:14 |
    What a lovely photo. It's wondeful they blogging was able to bring you something so special x
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:16 |
      Definitely, I feel very lucky to have made the friends I have through blogging, and especially making family friends with Lucy and her brood. x
  • Double Trouble

    Double Trouble

    23 February 2014 at 10:18 |
    Lovely photo, It's amazing how you meet people and its even more amazing how you just click with people.
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:16 |
      Thank you and it is. x
  • Actually Mummy...

    Actually Mummy...

    23 February 2014 at 10:39 |
    It's not, and it's so lovely how you and Lucy have clicked. I'm afraid I've been guilty of always expecting to see the two of you together. Sorry. For what it's worth, I loved seeing you on Friday and just getting to know you a little better as part of a different setting.
    And I know the feeling is mutual with BB - I met him at Legoland last year and she was all he could talk about. I think he was confused that there was a Maddie there who wasn't his :) He is totally adorable though.
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:14 |
      It was really lovely getting to know you a bit better on Friday as well. x
  • Mammasaurus

    Mammasaurus

    23 February 2014 at 11:25 |
    Lovely photo and an even lovelier friendship xx
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:14 |
      Thanks Annie! x
  • capture by Lucy

    capture by Lucy

    23 February 2014 at 12:10 |
    I think what is great about this post is it shows how genuine you are. It's so easy when you have a blog, to use that blog to present whatever image of yourselves that you want to, to the world. But your friendship shows that you both are exactly what you post, which makes for wonderful best friends xx
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:13 |
      This is very true, thanks for the lovely comment Lucy! x
  • Complicated Gorgeousness

    Complicated Gorgeousness

    23 February 2014 at 12:48 |
    Only just found your blog and it is so lovely. The ordinary moments are so important as they go so fast. xx
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:13 |
      Ah thanks so much, have enjoyed looking at yours too. x
  • Jenny

    Jenny

    23 February 2014 at 13:09 |
    What a beautiful tribute to a great friend, so sweet, I really enjoyed reading this. I am glad you have found such a great friend through blogging. Your kids look so happy together as much as their mommas! Special friendships like these are hard to find and when you do you hold on to them forever!!! You both are so very lucky to have each other. ;)
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:13 |
      Thanks Jenny! x
  • Super Busy Mum {Debs}

    Super Busy Mum {Debs}

    23 February 2014 at 14:03 |
    That is the cutest photo you guys!! Frame it, frame it now! lol x
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:12 |
      Thanks Debs! x
  • Little Miss Alba

    Little Miss Alba

    23 February 2014 at 14:10 |
    Gorgeous, happy, fun, warming picture of friends - LOVE xxx
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:11 |
      Thanks lovely! x
  • Morgana @ butwhymummywhy

    Morgana @ butwhymummywhy

    23 February 2014 at 14:14 |
    Ahh you two!
    What a gorgeous photo of you, Lucy and both your older ones, really fitting that they're in the photo with you as really you met through them.
    Lovely xx
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:10 |
      That's true actually, I didn't think of it like that but we are the original foursome, if it wasn't for those two little terrors we would never have met! x
  • bluebirdsunshine

    bluebirdsunshine

    23 February 2014 at 14:20 |
    It really is so special and rare when you just click with someone, let alone all your family clicking with each other too. Definitely to be treasured! Such a fun photo too, captures everyone's joy perfectly.
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:09 |
      I really love the photo! Thank you! x
  • Caroline (BecomingaSAHM)

    Caroline (BecomingaSAHM)

    23 February 2014 at 14:37 |
    Lovely post and lovely photo. It's amazing how much friendships change when you have kids. It's great that you have such a good friendship and that your families get along so well too, it can definitely be hard to combine the two! xx
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:07 |
      Thank you and yes it is lovely that we all get along so well. x
  • Emma

    Emma

    23 February 2014 at 15:03 |
    It is so lovely isn't I have a three friends from blogging like this. Infact we have been on holiday together and all spent new year together. Our men get on as do the kids. It is just fab.
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 15:06 |
      Oh wow, that's lovely Emma! A very unexpected but lovely part of blogging for us all I am sure! x
  • Not A Frumpy Mum

    Not A Frumpy Mum

    23 February 2014 at 15:04 |
    What a lovely post, and so nice you have made such a wonderful friend. Great photo xx
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 14:57 |
      Thank you!
  • Anna-Marie

    Anna-Marie

    23 February 2014 at 15:47 |
    I love this photo, its lovely that you have become such good friends and its all down to blogging! Amazing x
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 14:57 |
      It really was a very unexpected and welcome bonus! x
  • Molly

    Molly

    23 February 2014 at 17:31 |
    Ah lovely Katie - and what a cute photo. I feel the same about some of the friendships I've made through blogging. It's definitely an unexpected bonus!
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 14:56 |
      It really is isn't it Molly? Would have no idea that I would have met so many amazing ladies when I first started blogging. x
  • Miliwife1

    Miliwife1

    23 February 2014 at 18:09 |
    This is a lovely post. Moving around all the time has taught me that you don't need loads of friends; you just need the ones that it's easy with. I've realised that it's okay if you don't manage to stay in contact with everyone you meet and get on with but that there will always be some people from every posting that I just gel with. Those are the ones when it doesn't matter if you don't see each other regularly as the friendship is strong enough to withstand distance. xx
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 14:51 |
      I completely agree with you there. I have many friends all over the place but some are not as close as others. As long as you have a couple of friends you can turn too no matter what, you are pretty lucky I think. x
  • My Two Mums

    My Two Mums

    23 February 2014 at 19:46 |
    I love how you all seem to make a little heart on the swing. Such a gorgeous image and it is clear to see how you two just fit together as perfect friends.
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 14:48 |
      Ah thank you! xx
  • BEAUTY BUTTON

    BEAUTY BUTTON

    23 February 2014 at 21:09 |
    I have just found your website, I love it! and yep, I get what you are saying about friends. Everything changes when you have kids, my wee one is 18 months and two of my best friends are due to have babies, I'm very relieved xxx
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 14:47 |
      That's great news that you will all have babies a similar age. x
  • Karen

    Karen

    23 February 2014 at 21:19 |
    Aaahh that's a beautiful photo and post. You too have so much in common it's lovely to see. Friends are so important xx
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 14:47 |
      Thanks Karen and yes they certainly are. x
  • Jess Paterson

    Jess Paterson

    23 February 2014 at 21:31 |
    What a lovely post, and fab photo. That's so nice that you met someone so special through blogging. I've been reading this linky for a while and today I am actually going to join in! Hurrah! x
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 14:47 |
      Yay looking forward to you joining in Jess!
  • Kiran at Mummy Says

    Kiran at Mummy Says

    23 February 2014 at 23:36 |
    What a special photo. I feel so lucky that one of my closest friends is someone I have known since I was 11. Our children are all very similar ages and that has no doubt brought us even closer. x
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 14:46 |
      Ah thats lovely Kiran and how lovely that you now have children of a similar age too. x
  • Notmyyearoff

    Notmyyearoff

    24 February 2014 at 09:55 |
    What a very lovely post about a really firm friendship. I think such friendships can be rare so it makes it all the more precious.
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 14:46 |
      I completely agree with you and I do think that true true friendships are very rare. x
  • Laura (@ Chez Mummy)

    Laura (@ Chez Mummy)

    24 February 2014 at 12:02 |
    That's a great photo and just goes to show that blogging can change your life in more than one way
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 14:45 |
      Definitely Laura, blogging has most certainly changed my life in more ways than I could ever imagine! x
  • katie

    katie

    24 February 2014 at 14:35 |
    Awww you guys xxxx
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 14:45 |
      Hehe a little bit of mushiness! ;)
  • Amy

    Amy

    24 February 2014 at 23:09 |
    So special to have friends like that. The picture is absolutely gorgeous. Amy x
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 14:45 |
      Ah thanks Amy! x
  • Carin

    Carin

    25 February 2014 at 03:23 |
    Aww, I love that you have made such a great friend through blogging. It can be hard making close friends as a mum and so many people don't understand the bonds that develop between bloggers. But blog friendships can be very real and strong. So glad you have one another. :)
    • Mummy Daddy Me

      Mummy Daddy Me

      26 February 2014 at 14:44 |
      It is hard, a lot of people don't understand blogging friendships but they certainly are real and strong. I have met so many wonderful people as a result of blogging. x

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