My Photos.

When I started blogging I wasn’t planning on sharing photos online.  In fact I started and didn’t share any photos of Mads at all, bar ones where you couldn’t really distinguish who she was.  But as the months went by I found that I enjoyed sharing photos of her.  I found a real passion for photography and photos just naturally became a big part of my blog.

I am not naive in any way, and I know that by sharing photos online, you run the risk of them turning up elsewhere.  I don’t name my photos as I don’t particularly want them turning up in an image search on google, but I know how easy it is to go on and pull off any of my photos.  And it is not just my blog but facebook, twitter, instagram or any other form of social media.

As a parent, we do anything and everything in our power to protect our children.  I would never ever post naked photos of them, or photos that revealed our location.  I just wouldn’t.  But yes I share photos of them online- because this is a place for our memories, because I am passionate about photography and because well I am just so proud of them.

There’s the debate that I could set my blog to private, but for the most part everyone who I have met through blogging has been amazing.  I don’t want to have to do that.

Last night I was alerted to the fact that someone had been using photos of LL on a fake facebook profile.  A quick look at this profile showed hundreds of photos of LL, taken from instagram, and from my blog, claiming that LL was her daughter.  Over a period of months.  This profile was going on parenting groups claiming to be LL’s mother.  To say I felt sick is a complete understatement.

I sent a quick message to this account, and within minutes it had been deactivated.  But that doesn’t help the way it has made me feel.

It may seem dramatic but I cried most of last night, and I hardly slept.  I know it is my choice to put our lives online, and like I said, I am well aware that this could happen, and probably has happened before.  I can’t stop it from happening but this is the first time I have seen it.  I feel violated and it has made me question everything about my blog.

I have spoken to a few kind friends and to my Mum, and nearly all of them have said not to let it stop doing what I love and am passionate about.  The positives of blogging far outweigh the occasional negative for me, and that’s what they have all said I should remember.  They are just photos, they can’t hurt my girls.  They are safe.  Here with me.  And if there comes a time when they are older that they don’t want to appear on my blog, I would stop in a second.  They are just innocent snapshots.

Who knows why anyone would steal someone elses photos?  Perhaps because that person has suffered a loss or can’t have children themselves.  In that case I know how lucky I am and I do feel incredibly sorry for them.  It could be something more sinister, a man pretending to pose as a mother to talk to Mum’s in a forum.  It more than likely however, quite simply because they are cute photographs.

Whatever it is, it could happen again.  I am well aware of that.  But I have thought long and hard over the last twelve hours as to what I should do.  And as I said the joy that blogging has bought myself and our family, through new friends, opportunities and the way we live our lives, far outweighs the odd negative.

So I will continue to post my innocent snapshots of my little girls, until the day they tell me not to do it or until I decide that I no longer want to.

My little girls.

Our memories.

My photos.

Please do not steal them.




  • Mammasaurus says:

    How awful 🙁 I can understand your upset, I would be the same. I’ve heard a couple of bloggers mentioning their instagram photos have been nobbled by others and used for cards and such things. In your case it sounds like the lady in question obviously has a lot of issues.

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Thanks Annie, and I agree and in a way I feel deeply sorry for her. But at the same time it is not nice seeing someone creating a whole life around your daughter and family. I only hope that she won’t do it to anyone else. xx

  • Lina says:

    So sorry to hear that this has happened to you, but what an amazing reaction from you. You are quite right, this person clearly must have something badly wrong and we should actually feel sorry for them. What a nasty shock though and I hope that you are all ok x

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Thanks Lina, I try not to have a horrible reaction to people. I think about what they must be going through to make up this whole lie. x

  • Debbie says:

    I am so sorry you’ve experienced this. I cannot begin to imagine how you felt. I am so glad you’ve been able to write such a balanced view of it, it is difficult to imagine being in your position, and more so as to why someone has decided on their course of action. I agree with your friends and family, to stay true to yourself is the most important thing. x

  • HELEN says:

    omg that’s horrible, it must have freaked you right out…how did you find out? it’s a worry to think that this is just one person doing this…who knows how many fake profiles there are doing who knows what – it does not even bear thinking about. I hope you can soon put it to the back of your mind & continue what you do for your own memories x

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Exactly Helen there could be a lot more. But they are just photos, I have the real thing here with me. x

  • Stephanie says:

    I’m so sorry that happened to you! It would make me feel sick, too. I’m glad you’re not letting it interfere with your passions though! I love seeing all your wonderful photos and reading all about your motherhood journey.

  • How awful! That made me sick to read that. Poor you. It is a scary world x

  • Dean B says:

    Oh dear, I’d be upset too if this happened to me! Like you, at first, I was only posting photos that didn’t really show her face. And like you too, over-time, I was enjoying posting photos of my daughter too much. One of my favourite blogger also had a bad experience with her son’s photo. Someone used the photo of her son sleeping and added an inappropriate text to it. Like you she freaked out, read her experience here:

  • I totally get your pain and dilemma. As long as your beautiful little ones are safe, their whereabouts protected and you are caring for them, that’s all that matters. We are half way through the adoption process right now and I am having to seriously consider my online presence in a whole new light as a result. Identities MUST be protected, but how can I NOT show off my great passions? You aren’t alone…

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Thanks Helen and I think it is something that goes through plenty of bloggers minds. But like you say our children are here with us. And how wonderful to be going through the adoption process. x

  • Carie says:

    Oh my goodness how truly horrible and scary. I’m glad you were able to get it deactived quickly. I think it’s the worry in the back of all of our minds when we write about our children, but I hope you won’t let the good be steamrollered by the bad.

  • Emily Beale says:

    Oh, Katie how terrible. I hope from the outpouring of support you’ve received this morning you feel how much you and your family are loved. I have personally benefitted so much from all that you have shared on your blog, it has helped me to look at my own life from a different perspective. You mentioned the other day what a worry it is to bring up our children in a world where such terrible things happen. Your blog and beautiful pictures are a real ray of sunshine and remind me constantly of the wonderful things about the good people of life 🙂 Sending Hugs x

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      I really appreciate your comment Emily, in fact it made me cry. Thanks for being so kind. xx

  • What a horrible thing for someone to do. I can’t even imagine how I would feel about that, sick, angry, infuriated! I’m so glad that the page got deactivated and I’m so sorry you had to go through seeing it. xx

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Thank you, funnily enough I never felt angry. Just really upset and sad, and a bit sick. I feel sorry for the person actually, i just wish that they hadn’t been of my daughter. I still feel so sad and sick a few days on. x

  • Anna-Marie says:

    This is awful, and has made me feel sick! I cannot quite believe it, that someone could do that.

    I am so glad that you are not giving up though as I love your blog and your beautiful photo’s of your gorgeous family x

  • jenny paulin says:

    oh no Katie i am so sorry to read this. i guess it is a risk we all take of putting photos of our children on line that thosemimages can be ‘[stolen’ by others and used in which ever way they decide. I dread to think whwre any photos of my two boys could be. Maybe iy is better that I do not know? I am not sure.
    BUT you have made the right decision, at the end of the day this blog is YOURS as is the content and photos and you should not allow other peoples weird ways ruin this wonderful blog for oyu
    (hugs) x x

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      I definitely think it is better that you don’t know Jenny although in a way I am glad I do as it means I am more aware and careful now. x

  • Bryony says:

    Oh Katie I’m so sorry, how horrible. I can’t imagine how upsetting that is. You are right though, they are only photos. Sending lots of love xxxx

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Thanks Bryony, I have been so upset, it sounds a bit silly but it is almost like it has taken a bit of the joy away for me. But they are only photos and they won’t stop me blogging. x

  • Oh Katie, I couldn’t stop thinking about this last night it makes me so sad to think that someone would do this and I completely understand how much it must have upset you. I guess it’s a risk we all take when all we are doing is wanting to share the love in our families. I would hate for it to ruin blogging for you, you share the most beautiful photos. xx

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Thank you lovely, I really appreciate it. But that’s the thing, for the most part we all enjoy sharing the love of our families and I love reading about everyone else. We shouldn’t let the odd negative ruin it. x

  • Colette says:

    I am utterly mortified for you!
    I don’t actually know what to say,
    I’m glad you’re not allowing it to stop you blogging tho x

  • Charlotte says:

    That’s awful and so upsetting! I can’t believe someone would do that! I know that photos can be taken online but having it actually happen must be awful! You are right to not let that one person stop you doing what you love! Hope you are alright! x x

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Thanks Charlotte, I am alright, it has knocked me for six a bit but I am getting better slowly. x

  • Amy Ransom says:

    I can understand how violated you must feel. It’s quite horrific, This is always the downside of having an online presence. Is there some way you can protect your photos with settings that don’t enable them to be lifted/saved? A bit like the settings photographers use for copyright purposes. Sure you’ve thought of that… x

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Thanks Amy, I am going to start watermarking them although they won’t stop them, it might be more of a detterent. I don’t want to stop sharing my photos altogether as I love doing it, and I love my blog, and they are just innocent snapshots, but I just need to be more careful going forward. x

  • Shana Norris says:

    I am so sorry this happened to you. I think this must surely be a fear of every mother every time she uploads a photo of her babies to her blog. I know it runs through my own mind, anyway.

    I usually watermark any photos that feature my kids before I put them on my blog, but Instagram is another story altogether.

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Thanks Shana, and I am scared it will happen again. But the positives of doing it always outweigh the negatives when I write them down or think about them. Not just for me but for our whole family. Thanks for your comment. x

  • I saw my photos were on a website recently for free downloads and I was mortified. I emailed them and mentioned copyright laws and they soon removed them. It’s frustrating that people are so rude to do that but I agree that the pros definitely outwit the negatives xx

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      They really do don’t they? I must keep repeating that to myself! And maybe I should be flattered because someone obviously liked my photos? 😉 *er not really!*

  • Morgana says:

    Oh Katie, this is truly awful! I just can’t imagine how you felt. So pleased that it hasn’t stopped you from continuing to blog though. Big hugs to you and the rest of the family xxxx

  • Lauren says:

    This made me feel really sick, I can’t imagine how you felt about when you discovered it, and now.
    I’m confused and shocked as to why someone would do that?!
    I think you’ve made the right decision.
    Sorry that someone has stolen your photos, I hope it doesn’t happen again xx

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Thanks Lauren, I am still not 100% sure I have made the right one but I cannot stop blogging. It sounds silly but it is a part of who I am. Until the day my girls don’t want me to do it, I will continue, but I am definitely going to be more careful from now on. x

  • Carolin says:

    Oh my God, I can see why it left you that shaken. Of course, it’s not nice to have your photos stolen, but seeing that someone else is pretending to be your child’s mother is just sick. I don’t even know how I would react to that.

    Big hugs and I’m glad that you have decided not to let this influence the way you blog, because I love reading about your adventures as a family x

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      It’s really shaken me up Carolin, and to be quite honest it has been all I have thought about the last few days. It has taken the joy a little out of it all for me, but I will not let one person stop me doing something that we all get so much joy out of. x

  • Blimey Katie, what a horrible thing to experience. It gave me the shivers, just reading your post. Hope you’re OK lovely xxx

  • Nicola says:

    Oh Katie, I’m so sorry that this has happened. I just cannot imagine how it made you feel. Our children are so precious and I know we just want to wrap them up and protect them from all the bad , which I know this is something you have touched on before

    I just can’t believe that someone would do such a sick and twisted thing. It makes me so sad.

    But please remember why you started your blog – it is for you and your girls to be able to look back on and rember the ordinary moments. Please don’t let the minority who abuse photos etc ruin that for you.

    Your blog is absolutely beautiful and I for one love to read it.

    I hope you are feeling better about it today xx

  • Kellpops says:

    Oh gosh! 🙁 there are some serious weirdos out there. You have a gorgeous family, that you shouldn’t be afraid to share. I can’t begin to imagine what you have been through in the past few days.

    Big hugs and I hope you’re ok!

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Thank you so much, it is a shame that it has happened. But at least it has made me more aware. x

  • How truly awful. I hope you’re feeling okay. It must have been a hugely stressful night trying to absorb all that and decide what to do. I go backwards and forwards re whether to post pictures of my boys and two things always cross my mind …. 1. Most times when bad things happen to children, it’s someone that they know in reali life. 2. Thinking about the blogs I regularly read (yours included), if I close my eyes, I can’t really picture what your girls look like. Maybe not nice things to talk/think about but it does put me at ease a little.

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Thanks hun, yes I am ok. And I do agree with your points. It is hard because I do share a lot about our family, and it has made me take a step back and think perhaps it is a little too much. But the photos are just innocent snapshots and it seems sad that someone would take them. x

  • Its a shame that one nasty person has to spoil what you love, I don’t think you should give it up your pictures are beautiful!

  • gone the other way and where I didn’t used to mind sharing so much online now I’ve started to have doubts. A big part of that is due to Mr C really going on to me about certain scenarios that could happen, it’s freaked me out. It’s so hard to know the right thing, I guess we just have to discuss it with our families and carry on in a way everyone feels comfortable with. Hope you’re okay xx

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      It’s a really hard one- of course there are certain stories, photos etc I keep back, a lot of the feelings I share are my feelings and I always reread something to make sure that if someone Mads knew stumbled across it when she was older, she wouldn’t be embarrassed. But as a family, our blog has bought us all so much joy. Until the day that my girls came to me and said they no longer want me to write about them, I will continue to do it, as I know if my Mum had done something like this for me I would have been thrilled. At least I hope! x

  • Kat says:

    You are like the 20th bloggy friend that has had this happen to them and i JUST DONT UNDERSTAND IT! What is the point for someone to steal photos of someone else’s child and pretend they are theirs?!?!?! It makes me SO NERVOUS to continue to share photos of my little ones

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      It has made me so nervous Kat, and I have felt so sad for a few days. It’s one thing finding a couple of photos on someone’s site but another thing finding that someone has made up a whole life with your daughter. It has hit me very hard. But after talking to my husband, friends, and my Mum, I have decided that I want to carry on. But I will definitely be more careful from now on.

      We should never let a minority change something we enjoy. x

  • I’m glad you posted this. And I know I’ve said it before but I really want to say again that I hope you are okay. It makes me so mad and it’s not the first time I’ve come across it. Those photographs are so much more than just a candid shot to share. They are memories.. Special times. Life. And people say that a photo captures your soul and the only soul that is mother to your gorgeous girls is you. xx

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      You have hit the nail on the head there Charlotte. And I know it is my choice to put our photographs online, but it is also someone elses’ choice to take them. And that is wrong. x

  • Lisa H says:

    Oh my god I can believe this, I hope you are ok Katie. I’m so glad it hasn’t stopped you blogging, though xxx

  • Kate says:

    This is something that has been on my mind since I’ve started blogging, how much do you share? Obviously you’re careful which you share but people are strange, as you’ve found out, and I guess its the risk we run when we share online. Hope you’re ok. (gorgeous girls!).

  • Hannah says:

    I really enjoy your blog and love hearing about your family, it makes me sad that someone would abuse that privilege. I recently had an Instagram picture (luckily not of my baby girl) stolen and was so angry. x

  • I can’t begin to imagine! What a nasty human being they are. Glad it got sorted. Also glad you’ve decided to stay. Big hugs x

  • Laura says:

    Oh Katie! I am so sorry that this has happend. I don’t know what would possess someone to steal someone else’s photos but as we all know.. It happens. Try not to let it bring you down and certainly don’t let it keep you from doing what you love. You keep your girls close and know they are safe, and whoever did this should be ashamed of themselves xx

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Thank you Laura for your kind comment, We are all aware it happens but nether the less, it is shocking when it happens to you. x

  • Karen says:

    Oh Katie, this is awful & made me feel truly sick. I’m so sorry it’s happened to you. I’m glad to hear its not going to stop you blogging though xx

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Thanks Karen, it has been a hard decision but why I should I let one person stop me doing something I love? And that we all benefit from as a family. But it hasn’t been an easy decision and I will definitely be more careful from now on. x

  • Sorry you went through this, it must have been horrible. I had a couple of photos taken from my blog without permission and have since added a copyright on each image. It takes ages, to do that on each image and it does affect the look of the photos but I hope it will act as a form of deterrent. Anyone who wants to make the effort to crop each shot could easily get rid of it, but I’m hoping the deterrent will be enough.

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Thank you. I am going to start watermarking them too I think. Of course yes people can crop them out but i am hoping that it may be more of a detterent. x

  • Notmyyearoff says:

    Oh my god this makes me go cold just reading it. I always wor about stuff like this. How on earth did you find out? Is there any way watermarking would hinder people like this? I wonder if Facebook could find out the culprit based on ip addresses and the email they’ve been signing in from.

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      I told you how I found out on twitter, its just crazy isn’t it? I am still pretty shocked. x

  • Katie says:

    Oh Katie i’m so sorry to hear this – i’m not suprised you are shaken!

    i thing you are 100% doing the right thing though – don’t let people like that get in the way of doing what you love.

    Hope you are not too shaken xxx

    • Mummy Daddy and Me makes Three says:

      Thank you Katie, and yes it is true, I will not let it stop me, but I will be taking more precautions. x

  • Anna says:

    Hi Katie,
    I feel so sad that this has happened to you. I can’t believe that someone would do that. I have always been really worried about putting any pics of my little one on for this reason and only add a few. However there are lots of lovely mums I’m sure that enjoy reading your blog (including me) and sharing your experiences so I hope this hasn’t put you off doing what you love. You and your girls are beautiful hope you will feel better soon xxx

  • Oh my goodness, that is just awful. I’ve g

  • Jeez!! That’s just bloody awful! Huge hugs xxx and please don’t stop what you’re doing xxx

  • Kerry says:

    I am so sorry that this has happened to you. The things people will do these days is un real. I had someone use Amelia’s photo’s on Instagram once before and of course someone knew who we were so alerted us.

    Perhaps when watermarking your images you could have it in the middle of the image? Not covering your faces but near enough so they cant cut that bit out?


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