Read Part One- The Day We Met- here.
Read Part Two- Getting To Know Each Other- here.
Read Part Three- Moving In- here.
Read Part Four- Just Friends?- here.
Read Part Five- My New Life Without You- here.
Read Part Six- Secrets- here.
Read Part Seven- I Love You- here.
Read Part Eight- When You Realise- here.
Read Part Nine- Our New Little Home- here.
Read Part Ten- Our Big Day- here.
Read Part Eleven- OMG We Are Having A Baby- here.
On the 24th December 2010 we sat in a hospital room knowing that at some point that day we were going to be having a baby. The midwife came to collect us and we walked down the corridor, holding hands, our hearts pounding. I lay on the hospital bed, Mr E clutching my hand tightly, the surgeons cut open my abdomen and a few minutes later we heard the most amazing sound- our baby girl crying.
Just like that our lives changed forever.
At 9.35am on that Christmas Eve we became a family. No longer were we two, we were now three. Mr E and I had created a new life out of the love that we had for each other and life was never going to be the same again. I have blogged a couple of times before about my birth story but I have never really mentioned it from a relationship perspective.
Even from that very first day in the hospital I was truly in awe of my husband. He didn’t have the typical ‘family’ childhood- his father left when he was three and so he grew up without a father figure, but from the second our daughter was born he was just incredible. The first couple of days in hospital, I was so sore and couldn’t even sit up to get our daughter out the cot- he changed every nappy, cuddled her non stop, comforted her when she was crying, and sat there with her for hours to try and let me get some sleep. For someone who had never been around babies, his dedication, love and naturalness completely blew me away.
I fell in love even more with my husband the day my daughter was born.
We settled into a being a family of three. From day one Mr E has been the best father he could possibly be and I am so incredibly proud of him. He adores Mads and helps me more than I could ever know.
Of course our relationship has changed. We bicker more than ever before over the silliest things but they are normally forgotten about five minutes later. We don’t have as much time for each other anymore- gone are the afternoons spent at the cinema, or lying in bed, and gone are the nights out drinking cocktails and giggling until the early hours. In some ways I think that I have been replaced- I am no longer his number one girl, little Mads has taken my place and a huge proportion of his heart.
The past year has been one of the best and the worst for us. Mads being born has completed us and made us the happiest pair alive. Yet we have also had to deal with financial stresses as Mr E had to take a huge paycut for work. He has a new job now but often I wonder if it has changed us- I find it a lot harder to relax and enjoy the money we do have now.
I need to change this and relax and enjoy it a bit more.
Becoming parents has not always been easy on us as a couple- we are tired, we don’t have as much time to ourselves and we have had to learn to adjust to not being the most important person in each others lives anymore. There have been times when I have been worried that our relationship has changed, I think all new Mum’s go through that. It certainly hasn’t been plain sailing and I certainly wouldn’t want to paint a picture that it was.
Yet at the same time having another person in our lives has strengthened our relationship.
We are now three. A family.
I look at Mads and know that she was born out of our love for each other. Who would have ever thought that boy I met all those years ago would become the father of my child? All those drunken nights out, the endless flirting…who would have thought that he would give me the greatest gift of all?
It is hard to explain to someone who doesn’t have a child but becoming a family has made things better. We are joined together now, we have made the ultimate commitment to each other. We have the best times and we are learning how to raise our daughter together. Making memories.
And we are determined to make our little girl’s life the best it can possibly be.
I cannot thank my husband enough for helping me to create someone so amazing.